We did this exercise this past week at our staff day away and when I first saw this on the agenda I was kind of scared thinking, oh no, I do have things on my plate that are challenging. We were told to write in the centre of the plate the activities that we do on a daily basis. Oh, relief, that is not so bad at all. My day starts something like this…..computer, yoga, meditation, work, clients, meetings, check email, clients, making dinner, phone calls, etc. and I feel that even though I have an intense day for the most part my days and my life are quite balanced. The question I was worried about was “what’s really on your plate”. I am sure everyone can relate to this as we usually have things that we are dealing with on a daily basis that can be quite challenging. You could be dealing with making a tough decision, avoiding a confrontation or a difficult conversation with someone that needs to happen. Perhaps you are feeling overwhelmed with too much to do and not enough time to do it which is kind of like having too much stuff and not enough space to put it but that’s a blog for another day. Or maybe you have things that are weighing you down like unfinished projects, an ill parent or financial difficulties. I talked to a woman this week who said she “should” finish a baby quilt that she had started. The baby is now three years old. I asked her how she feels when she thinks about this or sees it sitting there and she said she feels guilt and shame and she feels bad about herself as she beats herself up thinking “why haven’t I finished this and why can’t I just do it”. What would happen if she was able to let that go?
You could be dealing with a cat who is exhibiting behaviour problems (as I have been all week) which can be very stressful. $150. later and a recommendation to buy cat food costing twice as much as I usually buy, it is hard not to feel resentful towards this cat whose days may be numbered. Oh, and of course she loves the new cat food and can’t seem to get enough of it. Well, if the problem is corrected it sure will be worth it. Sometimes just dealing with things that are keeping us stuck or being able to let go of something is enough to lighten the mood and help you to feel that you can move on with life or maybe even start a new project. If you can look beyond the to do list, everyday activities we all have to do and really look under all of that…… What’s Really On Your Plate?