Wow!! Week 4 already!! The weeks sure do fly by. Week 4 is the halfway point of the group and at this time it can get more challenging for participants. They should be testing the waters now by not acquiring, letting go and just generally having more awareness of their surroundings, thought processes and their actions and behaviours. Also, hopefully, they will have more awareness of where they want to put their energy and attention.
So, this weeks focus was on emotional clutter and the limiting beliefs that get in the way and can keep us stuck. You might not even realize that emotional clutter is a factor in a group like this, however, emotional clutter has a way of draining our energy and impacts on our daily life. Emotional clutter is often stuff like anger, sadness, pain, hurt and is usually from the past. We can hang on to these emotions which really prevent us from moving forward. Limiting beliefs really are helpful to look at because we all have them and they are often untrue. For example, “I will never be able to do this”, “I don’t know how”, “I am just lazy” “I am never going to get this”, etc. Once you start to identify them, you have the power to change them.
We discussed emotional attachments and have started to look at being able to let go, honouring and feeling our feelings, keeping perspective, expressing feelings and really just being able to stay with them.
This is a great quote from Jon Kabat-Zinn that I love:
“Clouds, storms continually arise and pass, the sun shines or the moon is dark – whatever is happening, the mountain remains solid, unchanged, witnessing the experiences around it.”
We did a fun “Need versus Want” Exercise using the example of a Coach Bag which was a difficult dilemma. Hmmm, do I need this or do I just want it?? Some people had to just vision a regular type of bag as most of us are not in a position to purchase a Coach Bag. We considered questions like “would I die without it?, do I need it for my work or employment, would my health be jeopardized without it” and then on the flip side “do you want this because you like or love it? How much do you think you will use it? Do you have another one like this at home?” As you can see, there are differences between needs and wants and these can really bring up some challenges.
Our homework from the previous week brought some great examples to the table. One woman said she was driving by some thrift shops that she always stops at (she would make her rounds at a few of them) and she was so conscious of not doing this on this day that she was quite pleased with herself. She also did find herself in a shop one day and she said she didn’t feel like buying anything. All she could thing about was what she had at home. Someone in one of our groups said that “we could all shop in our own homes” which has become one of our favourite expressions.
Another woman said that she realized when she was home she felt the need to leave and not be in her home and when she came home she felt the need to just go to bed. This might sound like a small thing to notice but it really is huge when it comes to wanting to make some changes.
Challenges are going well for participants and if they are not able to do them, they are able to break them down into more doable chunks.
More challenges for everyone this week and homework is to carry on with the Thought Record and then a Practice Form. A Practice Form is a form that looks at: an item to remove or not acquire, your discomfort from 0 -10, what you actually did, and then your rating from 0 – 10 after 10 minutes, after 20 minutes, after 30 minutes, the next day…..and the conclusion of this experiment. Sounds like fun eh!!
How are you all doing with your challenges? Would love to hear from you if you are able to follow along? I am planning to drop a big box off at a charity today woohoo!!
Please share this blog post with others who would benefit from it and check back for more updates from this group next week.