Hoarding, Acquiring, Saving, Letting Go, Awareness, Action = Hope

home is where the heart is

Some people might think that there is no hope for someone who has a hoarding problem and I am not about to make light of it at all because as we know it is a very challenging issue. But…..there are things that can help and there is hope that things can get better.

If an individual is motivated to work on their clutter/hoarding issues then this is an awesome first step. Knowing and admitting that this is a problem is huge and it can be scary to say “I need some help” but we all do at times in our lives.  Individual one on one help is great and of course group support is very motivating and group members encourage each other.  Check out the Clearing Clutter Support Group http://spaceforyou.ca/2015/01/22/clearing-clutter-support-groups-work/

These are the areas to focus on:

Acquiring: How much stuff are you actually acquiring on a daily, weekly, monthly basis and where is it all coming from? Keep track of this week to week and you might be surprised at what you bring home. If stuff keeps coming in and nothing is going out this is going to be a problem. This is usually the easiest area to get under control.

Saving – Amount of Clutter: When you look around your home, what do you see? How cluttered are your rooms? So, basically, how much stuff do you have around you? The size of our rooms can really dictate how much stuff we have. Most of the individuals I work with live in small homes.

Ability to Let Go: Are you able to let go of stuff? We all have attachments to our stuff but some things more than others. This can be especially challenging for those who struggle with OCPD .  For more info on this check out this post http://spaceforyou.ca/2015/07/18/how-to-determine-if-your-client-is-just-being-willful-or-struggling-with-ocpd/

Awareness:  Becoming more aware is really the first step in doing this work. CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is the preferred treatment and sounds easy but it takes some practice. It’s all about paying attention to your thoughts, emotions and behaviours and then challenging them.

Emotions=Thoughts = Behaviours

Action:  Taking action means actually doing the work, even if it is a little every day. “Small is Huge” is our motto in the group. Challenging yourself to get past the procrastination of dealing with difficult areas. In fact, think about what in your home is causing some difficulty or stress and plan to tackle that. I always like to remind people that this work takes a lot of courage, energy and is challenging work. Always take the time to reward yourself and try to work on having balance in your life.

HOPE:  I always believe that there is hope and that you can make some huge improvements in your life. Never give up. Learn from yesterday, enjoy today and you get to try again tomorrow. Keep at it and eventually you will see start to see how much progress you are making.

I would love to hear from you.  Please comment below and thank you for following.

 

 

 

 

About Kimberley

I am a Case Manager at My Sisters’ Place which is a program of the Canadian Mental Health Association London Middlesex. My Sisters’ Place is a program for vulnerable women. I love my job and all the wonderful women I work with. I am very honored to do this work with women who have been through so much and are so open in sharing their stories.
I initiated and designed a Clearing Clutter Support Group which I have been facilitating since 2007 with a co-worker. I love running this group and learn so much from the participants. We offer this eight week program three or four times a year.
I started my business Space For You in 2010 and work with individuals in their homes as well as offer some workshops in the community. I am available to speak to groups on “De-Cluttering Your Life”, “The Magic of De-Cluttering”, “Space Clearing” or really anything to do with clutter and hoarding.

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4 Responses to Hoarding, Acquiring, Saving, Letting Go, Awareness, Action = Hope

  1. I don’t hear a lot about group support for hoarders, but it seems like it would be very valuable for people to understand that they’re not alone in their struggles. I have a lot of admiration for the work you do.

    • Kimberley says:

      Thank you Janet. Group support really helps people to move forward. I feel very fortunate that I get to do this work. 🙂

  2. Olive Wagar says:

    I like your definition of hope! It takes courage + action!! And a dose of compassion from those who are helping can make all the difference in the world. 🙂

  3. Kim says:

    Thank you Olive for your comment. Yes I believe that this work is courageous and taking action is the hard part. Take care.

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