What is underneath the clutter?

What is underneath the clutter?  What do you think your clutter is trying to tell you?  What are the messages in your clutter?  Do you ever wonder why you are keeping so many things?

Think about this statement for a minute.  What do you think?

How does our clutter stop us from living the life of our dreams?

.  We are creatures of habit and we want to be safe and comfortable.  We do not want to upset the status quo so maybe we accept certain things like a bad relationship or a low paying job just to avoid change because change is scary.  A messy house can feel like protection and can mean that I cannot be in a relationship or that my house is not the place for the family to come for a visit or dinner.

.  Dealing with our clutter, acquiring things, moving stuff around, playing with our stuff keeps us from feeling our uncomfortable feelings. This means that they do not get dealt with and we are not able to move on.  You likely feel like you are always busy but the reality is that you are really just going around in circles and not getting anywhere.

.  Living in constant chaos, procrastinating, not able to commit or finish projects, feeling overwhelmed and anxious keeps you stuck and feeling bad about yourself.  Your clutter is stressing you out and taking up your valuable time.

Clutter can be defined as anything that interferes with the enjoyment of your life or gets in the way of living your dreams.

Lets think about the benefits our clutter can give us:

  • the clutter is really a distraction that keeps us from pursuing our goals.
  • it can prevent you from moving on to a new relationship or it can keep difficult relationships out.
  • disorganized paper and business files can keep your business or new job stalled.  It could keep you from writing that book you have dreamt of writing.
  • owning a lot of books can offer you the promise that if I read this book, I will then have it all together and my life will be perfect.  They give me permission to not have to take any action or make a change.
  • having disorganized and overwhelming craft supplies can prevent you from actually taking that first step to do the scrapbooking or other project you have plans to do someday.

What do you think your clutter is telling you?

What goals or dreams are you holding back due to your clutter?

Please comment below:


About Kimberley

I am a Case Manager at My Sisters' Place which is a program of the Canadian Mental Health Association London Middlesex. My Sisters' Place is a program for vulnerable women. I love my job and all the wonderful women I work with. I am very honored to do this work with women who have been through so much and are so open in sharing their stories. I initiated and designed a Clearing Clutter Support Group which I have been facilitating since 2007 with a co-worker. I love running this group and learn so much from the participants. We offer this eight week program three or four times a year. I started my business Space For You in 2010 and work with individuals in their homes as well as offer some workshops in the community. I am available to speak to groups on "De-Cluttering Your Life", "The Magic of De-Cluttering", "Space Clearing" or really anything to do with clutter and hoarding.
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6 Responses to What is underneath the clutter?

  1. I recently took everything out of my jewelry box, because everything was getting all jumbled, and discovered beautiful pieces I forgot I even owned. I put all my jewelry in box designed for organizing embroidery floss, so I can easily see what I have and find what I want, and no more tangles!

  2. Kimberley says:

    thanks Janet, Its always great when you find things you didn’t know you had or you had forgotten about. I just pulled out a few dresses that I could have worn this summer ugh!!

  3. April says:

    For the last three weeks I’ve hired my cousin to come in and help me purge my basement in my kitchen. Made me feel hundred percent better

    • Kimberley says:

      That is awesome April – it is amazing how great it makes us feel and opens us up to something even better. Hugs my friend xoxo

  4. Seana Turner says:

    I frequently see clutter robbing people of the peaceful environment they long for. They want their space to be a sanctuary or refuge, but instead it is a burden…. an albatross of discouragement. If you feel shamed by your stuff, it’s time for a change.

    • Kimberley says:

      That is so true and a good message to oneself. Often even when there is that insight though, individuals still don’t know how to make those changes. I guess that is where we come in to help. Thank you for your comment Seana.

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