How to Help Your Loved One who has Hoarding Disorder? Part 2

What do you do when your loved one is not motivated to make changes to make their place safer and healthier? What will motivate them to want to make change? How can you help your loved one who has hoarding disorder?

Here are some tips that I hope will help…..

Don’t Argue with your Loved One:  Honestly, arguing is really not going to get you anywhere and it could actually be helping your loved one to make an argument for not changing.  Also, it will just cause distrust and your loved one will probably dig their heels in and not allow you to even attempt to help anymore.  Try to be aware of your language and work hard at not arguing, threatening, minimizing, judging, etc.

Respect Autonomy:  As hard as this can be we need to remember that your loved one is an adult and needs to be able to make his or her decisions and to have control over their own lives.  You are not always going to agree with how they choose to live their life or with their behaviour.  They might have very limited insight and motivation which makes it very difficult to help.  The best thing you can do is let them know that you are concerned for their health and welfare.  Harm reduction is a best practice.  Check out this post on Harm Reduction https://spaceforyou.ca/2016/07/29/how-to-practice-harm-reduction-in-hoarding/

Of course, if your loved one lives with you, you have every right to set limits and to expect that your wishes be respected.  Otherwise there could be consequences to their behaviour.  You need to be able to set boundaries and to follow up with them in a kind and consistant way.  

You will be most successful if you can have a discussion with your loved one and try to have them be a part of the decision making as much as possible.  Ask them questions like:  “What do you think would be most helpful for you to work on?”,  “Where do you suggest we start today?” Or “What will make the most difference for you today?”

Focus on Values and Goals:  Talk to your loved one about their values and goals.  Be aware that these values and goals may not be the same as your own.  Ask questions???  What are your hopes and dreams? What is most important for you to focus on in your life?  What do you want for your future? 

Ask how acquiring more stuff and/or not letting go of items helps you to achieve those goals?

Set Limits and Practice Self Care:  This is challenging work for your loved one and also for you.  You may need to set limits with your loved one.  For example letting them know you are willing to help for a certain amount of time per week or that you are only willing to work on a particular task. Also, because this can be such difficult work, it is very important to practice self care and make sure that you are relaxed and in a positive space in order to help your loved one to make progress and to be making change.  

Please remember that hoarding disorder is a serious mental illness and often it takes a team of people to be able to help an individual.  What do you think?  Do you have any tips that would help you if you were in this situation?  Please add your comments below.  Thanks for following along.

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How to Help Your Loved One who has Hoarding Disorder? Part 1

What do you do when your loved one is not motivated to make changes to make their place safer and healthier?  What will motivate them to want to make change?  How can you help your loved one who has hoarding disorder?

It can be very challenging to help someone who is less motivated than you are.   It can seem that the more you push for change the harder the person pushes back.   The more you fight with your loved one about their possessions, the more they will fight back and unfortunately this can cause mistrust and sometimes can even lead to family breakdowns.  

You might be surprised to hear that in our work with the Clearing Clutter Support Group, we never tell people what to do or what to let go of.  This can be a big worry for a new group member.  A chipped coffee mug to me might look like it should be thrown in the trash but to someone else this may have some deeper meaning.  We need to respect these feelings and look at other ways to be able to help individuals and loved ones to start looking at how they can make changes.  

I want to share with you some ideas that come from the work of Dr. William Miller and Dr. Stephen Rollnick who are the founding members of Motivational Interviewing and helping people to make change.  The initial work was in the field of alcohol addictions but they have found that this model works with making change in many areas.  

Work with Ambivalence:  When you are thinking about or wanting to make a change it is perfectly normal to have conflicting feelings.  We know we want to make some changes, however, we are quite comfortable with the way things are.  We do an exercise in the Clearing Clutter Support Group called Reasons Not to Change and Reasons to Change.  We always end with the positive and hope to have more reasons to want to change than to not. It all has to do with the balance of change.  You could also look at a Pros and Cons list. I remember doing this when I was working on quitting smoking.  A lot!!  Eventually, I was successful and have been a non smoker for many years.  You have to want to make some changes more than wanting to stay the same. 

Show Empathy:  I know how hard this is and can be for me as well when I am working with my clients.  I think it’s because we can see what needs to be done and what would be helpful.  However, this needs to be decided by the client or your loved one you are helping.  It doesn’t mean that you agree with everything they are saying but it means that you are willing to listen and try to understand. 

It may be helpful to ask some open-ended questions like:

“What do you like about this room?” “Tell me more about this item?” “How does this item make you feel?”  “How could you create more space in here?”

Summarize what you are hearing from your loved one. “What I hear you saying is that you feel you won’t be able to make progress. Is that correct?”

Pay attention to signs that your loved one may be feeling stressed, anxious, sad, etc.  They likely will need to take regular breaks and progress may not be as fast as you would like.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of How to Help Your Loved One Who has Hoarding Disorder?

Any questions or insights please comment here…… and thanks for following along – Happy De-cluttering!!

 

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Getting Past Fear and Emotional Clutter

(Originally titled Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway posted August 31, 2015)

It is so much easier to stay in our comfort zone where we know what to expect and we don’t have to upset the boat.  We really want to avoid uncomfortable feelings that may come up if we try to make some changes in our lives. We might worry about hurting others or not pleasing others and put our own needs on the back burner.

Fear seems to be the buzz word these days.  It’s all about the fear.  Most of us have some real fear about letting go of clutter, both physical and emotional.   What is this fear about? What will it mean for me if I no longer have this thing, this relationship, this activity, this habit, this addiction? Then what? The unknown is very scary. This is Emotional Clutter.

I recently had to end a relationship that wasn’t terrible but I knew deep down that it was not working for me and I was feeling resentful and angry a lot of the time. I went back and forth thinking “this is really not so bad, there are some good things about this relationship” and “maybe, I just need to give it more time and put more effort into it to make it work”. I mentioned to one of my friends that it was good, not great and I really want great or it’s not good enough. She has been single for a long time and she said “I would take good over great right now if I could in my life”   So, again, I was second guessing myself about this decision and the doubts kept creeping in. I don’t love the idea of being single and there is the worry that I may be single forever, but if that is the case I am okay with that. In the end, I knew I had to make this change in my life and even though it was difficult I am now single once again but much happier. Yay!!

Update:  I have been with my new partner for almost three years now and couldn’t be happier.  I am so happy I took that step back in 2015.  I am finally in love and its so real and beautiful.

Back to letting go of other things…..Emotional Clutter…..anything that gets in the way of the enjoyment of your life or living your life to the fullest.  This could be anything that takes up your time and energy and leaves you feeling resentful and drained. Things like unhealthy relationships, bad habits, old patterns of behaviours that no longer serve and activities that are not nourishing to your soul. It is challenging to change these behaviours especially if they have been going on for a long time.

Getting rid of physical clutter will help to shift emotional clutter. If you are feeling particularly stuck, working on the emotional clutter is likely the best place to start. Clearing one, the other follows.

So, how do we get past the fear and how can we work on our own emotional clutter?

Know Yourself: This is where focusing on priorities and goals, and following your dreams can be so helpful and enlightening because it helps you to pave the way for what you want for yourself and for your life. Journaling, Visioning, Reading and Sharing with others are great tools that you can use to help with this.

Challenge Yourself: It may not be as difficult as you think it will be. Usually the fear is worse than actually getting started. Start with small changes and see what happens. Pay attention to the emotions that come up. “Small is huge” is our motto in the Clearing Clutter Support Group.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway: I love this expression and I know there is a book with the same name that I have read many years ago. I tell my clients who have panic or anxiety attacks that (as long as they are in a safe place) when they feel an attack coming on and they know what it is they can try thinking “bring it on, give me your best shot” and going with it instead of trying to make it go away. If you can allow the feelings, emotions and pain and go through them rather than avoid this will lesson the power that they have over you. Trying to avoid the pain can make it worse.

“What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size? Carl Gustav Jung

What are some of the benefits that you can think of for dealing with Emotional Clutter?

Please comment below and share this with others who would find this helpful.  Thanks for following along.

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How to Help your Family Member who has Chronic Disorganization

Do you have a family member who is struggling with chronic disorganization?  Have you tried to help them only to be left feeling frustrated and both of you feeling angry at each other?  This is certainly a huge challenge that I am sure would not be easy to deal with.  Sometimes the individual does not even see that there is a problem.  Family members who mean well want to help but their loved one is feeling defensive and has trust issues with everyone.  That is why it is a good idea for individuals to have other supports available and in more severe cases they may need a wrap around team approach.

When a family member is resistant, it can be a matter of helping them to get to the point where they have done the minimum requirements to be safe and in some cases be able to keep their apartment or home.  As a family member you can stress to them that you are concerned for their safety and health.

So, how do you help your family member to be motivated?  Are they having difficulties on a day to day basis with remembering appointments, paying bills, finding things, tripping over belongings or piles toppling over?

What are the challenges they are dealing with every day?  They might be feeling overwhelmed enough that they are willing to accept some help.  What does your family member want to be doing with their days?  What are their goals for the future?  These are the clues for you to help them and to see how motivated they are to work on their issues.

There is a great book that is directed at family members called “Digging Out” and it takes a harm reduction kind of approach.  Here is some more information on harm reduction.

How To Practice Harm Reduction in Hoarding

SOME THOUGHTS AND IDEAS FOR WORKING WITH YOUR FAMILY MEMBER:

  1. Let your family member know that they are in the drivers seat and they get to make their own decisions.  They get to decide on where to start or what to work on?  This can be difficult for the person helping, however, there still will be opportunities to ask questions in order to help with the awareness of pros and cons of a decision or possible consequences.
  2. It is best for the individual to always be responsible for decisions around the clutter.  Items should never be discarded without the individuals knowledge or permission.  I have seen this happen too many times and unfortunately this just leads to more distress and dysfunction.  Avoid doing the work for the individual and think about doing the work along with the family member.
  3. Show compassion and acceptance.  I know how hard this can be, but to really help our loved one, we need to let go of any judgement and try to be there for them.  Normalizing things as much as possible is really important.  Making jokes, going out for coffee or lunch can mean the world to someone who is struggling everyday with clutter and chaos.
  4. Acknowledge feelings “it sounds like this is really hard for you”,  “I can see you are sad about going through mom’s things” “its okay to be unsure about throwing this item away”, etc.   Let them know that you realize this is really hard work and that you are proud of them for starting the process.  We have a saying in our Clearing Clearing Support Group that is “SMALL IS HUGE”.  Reward small efforts.
  5. Learn more about clutter/hoarding issues.  Read my blog posts for some helpful information or check out some of the great books available.  I have some listed under resources.  Also, if you are local (in London, On) come out to one of my talks coming up and bring your family member with you.
  6. Be kind to yourself.  It can be really challenging to help someone who is struggling with hoarding.  You will need to take good care of yourself and also work on setting healthy boundaries in order for you to do this work.  Reward yourself.

Please comment below with any thoughts, questions or ideas about successes you have had while working with others.

 

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A Peek into a Professional Organizers Home – Welcome to my Grotto

 

I love change!  Actually, I love doing renovations in my home and always have plans for how I can improve things.  I love cleaning up my space and I am in my happy place when I have the time and energy to give my home some tender loving care.  I am all about decluttering my home and also upgrading.  

As a Professional who works with people who struggle with clutter, you might think my home would be perfect.  Not at all!  I really like the lived in look and want my home to be a sanctuary, a safe place and also a place where I can  relax and be myself.  I like to have things around me that I am interested in, reading or working on.  I want to be comfortable and at home. 

I am excited to tell you about my Grotto and my backyard space.  Its really my most favourite place.  Welcome to my Grotto.  

Dictionary Definition

A grotto is a small cave, the kind of place where you feel comfortable, cozy, and protected from the harsh realities outside.

A grotto can also be described as a secret location near water and because my space is near a pond, I thought this was the perfect name for this space.  

Here is a pic of my pond.

A number of years ago this is what this space looked like

but with some determination and a focus on my goals this is how the space looks now.  

The grotto is a sacred place where women (well, it has been mostly women but we welcome men as well) can come to relax, be at peace, enjoy nature, sing, drum and share stories.  

We have had workshops in the grotto, birthday parties, girls nights,  potlucks, visits with friends as well as a meeting with the POC London Chapter.  The very best time for a gathering is on a hot breezy night with the windows open, the curtains blowing in the soft breeze listening to the sound of the waterfall nearby.  I really love a nice warm rainy evening in the summer.  You are so close to nature and able to hear all kinds of nature sounds and wildlife.  The wood stove takes the chill off on a cool morning or a chilly evening and adds a touch of ambiance.

We spend almost all of our free time outside in the summer and can hardly wait to get out there to create a beautiful, peaceful and serene space.  We look forward to our new adventures this summer.

This post was created for the Professional Organizers Blog Carnival: A Sneak Peek Into an Organizers Home.

Thank you for following along and I welcome your comments or feedback.

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Get Motivated to Declutter your Clothing

Can you relate to this?

Do you need some motivation to go through your clothing and de-clutter what you no longer wear, love or even fits?  Are you having difficulty on a daily basis trying to figure out what to wear?  Are you often running late, trying on clothes only to look in the mirror and think “uh, NO” only to throw it on the floor into a growing pile. UGH!!

I had an interesting experience with a friend who helped me with some de-cluttering.  It was really eye opening to be on this side of the fence and has been very helpful to me in working with others.

My friend asked if she could look in my front closet? She had me try on some of the many coats I had in there.  She would then ask me “what do you think?, “how does this make you feel”, “does it fit” and “does it make you feel like a queen?”  In most cases, as I tried on each piece of clothing, I would shrug my shoulders and my response was “meh” and the item ended up on the floor in a pile.  She said that if it didn’t fit or didn’t make me feel like a queen then it had to go.  As I watched the growing pile for donation on the floor she asked me “from what is left in your closet, what do you have that makes you feel powerful and in charge of your life” I looked around and I had to say it was my cloak which she had me put on.  I walked around a bit swinging my cloak and looking and feeling like a million bucks.  I was really owning my space and the world.  My cloak makes me feel like a queen and in charge of my life but of course I can’t wear that every day.

Here is a picture of me in my cloak with my friend Beth (I am the one on the left.   This was taken a number of years ago, but of course, is one of my favourites)

Some great tips for Decluttering your Clothes:

  1. Try on each piece of clothing.  How does it make you feel?  Does it make you feel like a queen?  In charge of your life? If not, get rid of it.
  2. Clothing that no longer fits.  Too big or too small.  Even if your body changes, you may need something different or that fits better.  See #1
  3. Clothing that needs to be mended.  Are you going to get around to doing that alteration or has it been sitting in a pile for way too long?  I got rid of a pile of clothes that needed to be mended because I just didn’t feel like spending the time doing it.
  4. Clothing from this past season that you didn’t wear?  Why didn’t you wear it?  As you know we wear 20% of our clothing 80% of the time.  If you don’t love it, likely you won’t wear it next season either.
  5. Throw out anything that is looking old, with stains or broken zippers, etc. At the end of the season throw out old worn out boots or footwear.  You are going to need new ones for next year anyway. Easy peasy, right?
  6. Sentimental items.  It can be hard to let go of a piece of clothing, boots, shoes or a purse that you have really loved.  But, if the item is old, worn out, doesn’t fit, etc. maybe it has served its purpose….thank the item and let it go.  Take a picture if you are worried you will forget about the item.
  7. Going through your clothing will help you to see what you have, what you might need and also will give you so many more options for getting dressed in the morning.

Decluttering your Clothing will Simplify Your Life

Do you have some great tips for decluttering your clothing?  Please share in the comments……

 

 

 

 

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The Connection between Mental Health and Chronic Disorganization

What is the connection between Mental Health and Chronic Disorganization?

It was once thought that OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, was the main issue with individuals who were living with “Hoarding Disorder” (which was deemed a Mental Health Illness in the DSM 1V in 2013.

OCD can be an issue and is very debilitating as it prevents its sufferers from being able to carry out the tasks of their daily lives. OCD is an anxiety disorder where individuals struggle with thoughts, feelings and sensations and then engage in behaviours to deal with them.

But actually a very low percentage of people who have OCD would consider themselves to have chronic disorganization or hoarding disorder. It is somewhat more prevalent that those suffering with OCPD Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder also struggle with hoarding.  They have a really difficult time with letting go of possessions.  OCPD has to do with having a strong sense of control and perfectionism. The idea is that if I cannot do it perfectly then I cannot do it at all.

You can read more about OCPD here:

http://spaceforyou.ca/2015/07/18/how-to-determine-if-your-client-is-just-being-willful-or-struggling-with-ocpd/

Vulnerability Factors:

Maybe one of your parents had a lot of clutter and/or challenges with their stuff.  Your parent may have been around during the Depression when items were limited and they had to go without.  Or maybe you remember going to Grandma’s house and her place was cluttered but it was a lot of fun to play and look at her stuff.  Another factor could be a parent who was a perfectionist and wanted everything shining clean and spotless.  An individual might feel like rebelling and just doing things their own way.

There is a lot of anxiety associated with dealing with clutter. It has to do with how much clutter is comfortable to live with, how much stuff I am bringing in on a day to day basis and the challenge of letting go of items that are not needed or necessary. The anxiety comes from the inability to trust our own instincts, wanting to avoid uncomfortable emotions or soothe them and difficulty making decisions about our stuff.

You may have heard that clutter is all about holding on to the past and worries about the future.  It is usually not about the present.  Being in the present can be painful and uncomfortable. We are looking for ways to soothe ourselves even if this is unconscious. Shopping, acquiring cool stuff, finding treasures, numbing feelings with drugs or alcohol, planning for the future, moving stuff around (churning) and avoiding discarding are all ways we are taking care of ourselves and paradoxically they are also ways that contribute to having too much stuff.

Mental Health Factors:

Having an episode of depression or major depressive disorder is very challenging when it comes to trying to manage your life, your belongings, doing laundry, appointments, money, poverty, getting food, relationships, physical health, mental health, legal isssues, and possibly addictions.  An individual may be facing more serious crisis situations such as problems from a landlord, the Fire Department or eviction and consequently homelessness. Self esteem can be a factor as well. I remember a woman who came to our group saying that she had a lot of garbage around her apartment and she realized it was a reflection on how she felt about herself.

Most people who have struggles with clutter have had some kind of trauma happen to them. Now please note that not everyone who has trauma issues has clutter issues as there can be other resiliency factors ie: family supports, good friends, positive people in your life, financial supports, etc.

However, among those who have difficulty with their stuff, most if not all have had some kind of loss in the past, losing a loved one, a partner, friend or parent and inheriting their belongings, losing a child through death or (maybe even to CAS, Children’s Aid Society), violence and assault, a serious physical health illness, mental health issues, addictions, relationship breakdowns, divorce, moving or losing all of their belongings due to eviction.  All of these traumas which can cause symptoms of PTSD, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can also lead to having a Hoarding Disorder.

I would love to hear your thoughts.  Please add your comments below…..and thanks so much for following along……

Happy Decluttering!

 

 

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Five Tips for Happy Spring Cleaning/Clearing

It’s that time of year again when we feel motivated to make some changes in our lives.  Longer daylight hours and seeing the sun a bit more often just helps us all to feel better.

Warmer weather allows us to open windows, feel and smell the fresh air, watch the new growth sprouting out of the ground and to start thinking about organizing and clearing out. The sun feels so much stronger now and if it is streaming in through your windows you are probably noticing the dust, cat or dog hairs, dirty windows, etc.  It can all be a bit overwhelming.  Here are 5 of my tips that I hope will help you to get motivated.

Five Tips for Happy Spring Cleaning/Clearing

  1. When the sun is shining through the windows and you are seeing the dust on the windows, on the blinds or the dust bunnies on the floor, this is the best time to clean up especially if you are feeling somewhat energetic and motivated.
  2.  This is a great time to get all of the garbage, newspapers, and           cardboard ready to get out to the bin or to the curb just because its easier to get out and about.
  3. Have you been noticing any winter clothing (coats, boots, mitts) that are scuffed up, missing buttons, with rips, holes?  They really need to go?  Hopefully, soon we can get rid of these things and next year they could be replaced with something better.  You deserve the best, my friend!
  4. Cleaning up the entrance way, shaking out some rugs, sweeping the floor can really feel good and can really pave the way for good energy to come through your door.
  5. Seasonal change of clothes.  You might not want to rush this but it can be helpful to start thinking about what you may not have worn all winter. It might be time to let go of some of these clothing items.

Once that beautiful spring weather is here I am likely not going to have a lot of time to work inside so I really want to get as much done as possible.  I anticipate I will be outside a lot.  I am so looking forward to Spring, going for walks, bike rides, raking all the leaves leftover from last year, (Ugh!! I will try think of this as great exercise), cleaning up outside and watching the world green up again.  How about you?  What do you love about spring and what are you looking forward to?

 

 

 

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Is there a link between physical and emotional clutter?

Declutter Your Life and Mind.  This is a talk/workshop I am doing on March 21, 2018 at a local library.  One of the areas I will be talking about is the connection between physical and emotional clutter.   How do we move the physical clutter and what happens when we do?  What about the emotional clutter that tends to come up?

Perhaps you find the idea of clearing out more appealing than actually doing the work. If so, you are not alone.   There are a lot of reasons why it is difficult to let go of our stuff aka clutter.  Getting started is usually half the battle.  If you are avoiding dealing with the clutter then it might be helpful to actually sit with your clutter and really look at what comes up for you. What is the resistance to doing this work?  You could try writing about your feelings and see what is coming up for you.  It might feel like you are not doing anything but this is a really great way to get started especially if you are feeling stuck. This helps you to start to take some control and to have power over your belongings and your space.

Working on your physical clutter will help you with the emotional clutter.

While it is easier to see the physical clutter, if you move it without being conscious about your feelings and not paying attention to what might be underneath it, likely you will just re-acquire and end up back in the same place again. When we look a little deeper we might find there is emotional clutter as well. The clutter can very well be emotional baggage and unfinished business.   Do you have old files from a previous career, love letters or cards from an ex-partner, a wedding dress from a failed marriage, books about dreams that you once had, clothing from a happier time or a time when you were a lot slimmer, or projects that are unfinished?  (When I was involved in a quilting group in the past we called these UFO’s Unfinished Objects).   These are all areas that can keep us emotionally stuck in our lives.  Clutter can be giving us a message that we do not want to or cannot move forward.

Messages like:

“I will be able to wear this when I lose 10 pounds” (someday in the future but for now looking at those clothes can make me feel bad about myself)

“I am afraid to try to meet someone and start a new relationship” (because I am sad and still thinking and dwelling on the past relationship)

“I spent a lot of money on this so I cannot let it go” (I will hang on to this even though I don’t love, want or need it and it is taking up valuable space that could be used for something else)

“Someday, I will fix, sew, sell this” (again, someday in the future but realistically am I really going to do this)

“I will not be able to clean this mess up, so why bother trying” (a good excuse to not even start and an easy out in some ways)

“I would like to have company over but cannot because of the mess” (relationships are tough and I have been hurt in the past so it is easier to not have people over)

“I am keeping these books because one day I will read them and then I will be able to get more organized” (my books offer me the promise of making things better but in the meantime they are taking up space and causing me to feel bad because I haven’t read them or actually done any of the work or followed up)

Can you see how some of these thought processes can hold you back and how they protect you from actually pursuing your dreams?

What is your clutter saying about you? How is it protecting you from moving forward?  Would love to hear from you.  Please comment below…..

 

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Peer Support Works

The Clutter Clearers’ Peer Support Circle has been meeting now for five years.  They are coming up to their anniversary in April 2018 and are planning to celebrate.  Yes, Peer Support Works!

They might have a party in someones home.  Think about that for a minute.  This is certainly something that they would not have ever imagined could happen.  But yes, the Peer Support members do visit each other in their homes.  WOW!

There are lots of great benefits to attending this Peer Group.  There is always lots of laughter and “clutter jokes” that only those who struggle with clutter really get.  Laughter is so healing and the clutter jokes really help to normalize things and to reduce the anxiety.

Group members may have been quite isolated in the past and also may have family members who do not understand.  They  develop new friendships and connections with others who really get them.

This group encourages participants to work on their personal goals and challenges and also keeps people accountable to those goals.  The Peer Group Facilitator talks about how the group members are developing their “de-cluttering muscles or their housekeeping muscles”  which really just means working on developing some new awareness and habits.

If you would like to learn more about the Peer Circle from the early days please check out this link.  http://spaceforyou.ca/2013/12/16/the-power-of-support/

I am so proud of this group and honoured to be invited back every few months to check in and see how everyone is doing.

Peer Support Rocks!!

Personally, with my own goals I feel like I have finally developed a new habit which is hanging or folding up my clothes at the end of the day.  This has honestly been something I have tried to do over the years and by the end of the week I would have a huge pile of clothes to deal with. What a huge difference this new habit has made.  Success!!

Have you been able to develop an awareness or a new habit that you have been able to maintain?  Please comment below and thank you so much for following along.

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