It’s that time of year again when we feel motivated to make some changes in our lives. How do we move the physical clutter and what happens when we do? What about the emotional clutter that tends to come up?
The weather is changing and warming up which allows us to open windows, feel and smell the fresh air, watch the new growth sprouting out of the ground and to start thinking about organizing and clearing out. The sun feels so much stronger now and if it is streaming in through your windows you are probably noticing the dust, cat or dog hairs, dirty windows, etc. It can all be a bit overwhelming.
Perhaps you find the idea of clearing out more appealing than actually doing the work. If so, you are not alone. There are a lot of reasons why it is difficult to let go of our stuff aka clutter. Getting started is usually half the battle. If you are avoiding dealing with the clutter then it might be helpful to actually sit with your clutter and really look at what comes up for you. What is the resistance to doing this work? You could try writing about your feelings and see what is coming up for you. It might feel like you are not doing anything but this is a really great way to get started especially if you are feeling stuck. This helps you to start to take some control and to have power over your belongings and your space.
Physical and Emotional Clutter go together!!
While it is easier to see the physical clutter, if you move it without being conscious about your feelings and not paying attention to what might be underneath it, likely you will just re-acquire and end up back in the same place again. When we look a little deeper we might find there is emotional clutter as well. The clutter can very well be emotional baggage and unfinished business. Do you have old files from a previous career, love letters or cards from an ex-partner, a wedding dress from a failed marriage, books about dreams that you once had, clothing from a happier time or a time when you were a lot slimmer, or projects that are unfinished? (When I was involved in a quilting group in the past we called these UFO’s Unfinished Objects). These are all areas that can keep us emotionally stuck in our lives. Clutter can be giving us a message that we do not want to or cannot move forward.
“I will be able to wear this when I lose 10 pounds” (someday in the future but for now looking at those clothes can make me feel bad about myself)
“I am afraid to try to meet someone and start a new relationship” (because I am sad and still thinking and dwelling on the past relationship)
“I spent a lot of money on this so I cannot let it go” (I will hang on to this even though I don’t love, want or need it and it is taking up valuable space that could be used for something else)
“Someday, I will fix, sew, sell this” (again, someday in the future but realistically am I really going to do this)
“I will not be able to clean this mess up, so why bother trying” (a good excuse to not even start and an easy out in some ways)
“I would like to have company over but cannot because of the mess” (relationships are tough and I have been hurt in the past so it is easier to not have people over)
“I am keeping these books because one day I will read them and then I will be able to get more organized” (my books offer me the promise of making things better but in the meantime they are taking up space and causing me to feel bad because I haven’t read them or actually done any of the work or followed up)
Can you see how some of these thought processes can hold you back and how they protect you from actually pursuing your dreams?
What is your clutter saying about you? How is it protecting you from moving forward? Would love to hear from you. Please comment below…..