Space For You

Or maybe the King?  Do you know what you want for your home and your life?  How do you feel when you walk into a room?  What do you notice?  Do you find yourself shrugging your shoulders, just letting out a big sigh and walking away closing the door on your way out?  What are the thoughts that follow……..”I just don’t know where to start, what to do and really, what is the use…….I can’t do it……… I am just so tired” ugh!!  

Years ago I had a friend who is a Feng Shui Expert come into my home and she witnessed me doing all of those things.  I had a roommate at the time and I wasn’t happy about it,  no privacy,  unfinished renovations in my home, too much clutter……all the things.  She said I was acting like a 16 year old who didn’t know what she wanted.  And she was right.  So, I had to put on my cloak (more about that here) and get it together.  It was time to set some boundaries and make some changes in my home and in my life. 

Where in your home or life do you feel like you know what you want or need?  Where are you in charge? What is this energy like for you?  Tap into that energy. 

Because you are the one that gets to decide!  

You get to make decisions about what goes in your personal space, what goes out, who is invited in, who visits and what happens in your space.   

You are in charge!  

I am in charge of my kitchen .Yes, I am the cook in my home and I am good with that.  I want to eat as healthy as possible so I get to plan our meals.  This is my domain.  I shop for our food and cook our meals.  I have a really small kitchen so it is important to me to keep things as organized as possible.  I need to know where things are when I need them.  Thankfully, my partner cleans up after my cooking fiascos. Haha!  Did I mention I love to cook?  Actually,  I just love to eat healthy food.  Shhh!! 

What areas are yours and yours alone? Where are you most in charge? Would love to hear from you………

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When I think back on this past year, the word bittersweet comes to mind.  We (myself and my siblings) started the year by taking turns caring for my parents.  Especially my dad who was in need of daily care and help with meals and other things.  My dad passed away on February 1st at the age of 91. He had been in pain for many years so is now at peace.  My dad was definitely the Patriarch of our family and due to his passing, Covid 19 and other family dynamics our family will never be the same again.  It would be nice to think there will be a new normal but I don’t see it at this time. 

My 91 year old mom lived in their home on her own from February 1st until September 1st when she went into a Care Home.  Again, we all (there are four of us) took turns bringing food, taking care of her finances, taking my mom to appts and just generally visiting with her. It has been an adjustment for my mom that has taken a few months.  At this time my mom is happy and grateful to have a nice, clean and safe place to live.  She has a Studio Apartment which means she has her own private space, lovely meals, supportive staff and of course weekly visits from all of us.  We are all so grateful that this has worked out for her.  

We spent weeks and weeks cleaning out our parents home, staging it and selling it for well above the asking price.  I am so happy that we all worked so well together to make this happen.  

Due to cleaning out my parents home, I have been inspired to really look deeper into my own home and see what I can clear out.  I really want to live more simply and also just to know what I have when I need it.  It’s a work in progress, of course, so this will continue into 2022.  

I am feeling so good about my daily yoga and walking practice.  It’s really been almost daily and I have lost about twenty pounds that I accumulated around the time of the first Covid wave. I am feeling stronger and healthier every day and this feels like an ongoing practice now. 

Another area I feel good about is my home. I found this amazing painter and she painted our bathroom, all of the downstairs rec room and our living room, hallway and dining room ceilings. This just really freshened things up and really helped us to feel good about our home.  

I wrote a chapter in a book this year which was a cathartic and healing process for me.  It’s a story about a sad and challenging time in my early life, however, it was helpful for me to revisit this time and to reflect on how much it has shaped me to become the woman I am today.  Send me a message if you would like the link to download.

I have worked with a number of new clients this year and just recently have moved to Virtual Organizing and I just really love it.  As long as my clients are motivated to make change, they are able to develop some new skills and behaviours which really help them to make progress in their homes and in their life.  

Loving my Facebook Group Community Declutter Your Life and Mind and feel like the engagement has really stepped up.  Did you know that I have been offering (almost) monthly Coffee Chats on Zoom for this Community?  They are so fun and such a good way to get to know like minded people.  One of our themes for the New Year is “Swedish Death Cleaning” which most of us can relate to.  Here is the link to sign up if you would like support and accountability with your own decluttering goals.

I just found out that because of my regular participation in the Professional Organizers Blog Carnival (25 or more posts – I can’t even wrap my head around this)- I am now listed as a Professional Organizers Blog Carnival Superstar Blogger! Yay!!

What did you accomplish in 2021? What are you most proud of? Please comment below…….would love to hear from you…….

Would you like to work with me in the New Year? I will help you to gain clarity, make room for what matters, manage your time, energy and belongings. Accountability will help you to develop the skills and behaviours to move forward. Schedule a free 30 minute call with me today!

I really love this fun and inspirational list that was compiled by members of the Clutter Clearers’ Peer Support Group and the Declutter Your Life and Mind Facebook Group.  The thing to remember is to make sure the clutter free gifts are personal to the recipient. For example, if you prefer Tim Horton’s for coffee, then you might not appreciate a Starbucks card.

General Items

Picture(s) of funny items “here’s what I didn’t get you!” 
Digital – perpetual birthday calendar
Digital – family recipes
Ear Ring Holder – to organize earrings and/or jewelery
Beautiful box and/or bag to store something specific
A portrait or painting that you did yourself

Consumables

Groceries or grocery gift cards
Candy ie. caramel corn, peanut brittle, truffles
Chocolate is always in style
Wine/spirits/juice/fancy tea/coffee
Spice mixes
Orange pomander – orange studded with whole cloves, rolled in cinnamon – (I made one of these for my mom once)
Herbs from your garden (fresh or dried)
Homegrown or store bought bouquets
Treats in a jar – cookie ingredients and recipe
A tray of homemade cookies

Experiences 

Event tickets – plays, movies, concerts, etc.
Theme park pass – zoo membership
Fitness membership
Coffee Gift Cards with a planned Coffee Date
Gift cards for restaurants. (A great family gift)
Subscription to a Meal Delivery Program like Hello Fresh or Chef’s Plate

Acts of service

Coupons for doing chores around the house ie: dishes, laundry, babysitting, dog-walking…
Coupons for foot rubs, back rubs, etc.
Charitable gifts in the person’s name

Green wrapping ideas (for all you crafty ones)

Newspaper, magazines, potato print or rubber stamped plain paper, brown paper packages ties up with (coloured) string; or ornamented with pine cones, other natural items or paper snowflakes (I love making paper snowflakes)
Homemade holiday ornaments – salt or cinnamon dough cut outs, paper garlands
Homemade gifts are always welcome and appreciated  

And the #1 popular non clutter gift that everyone loves – when in doubt give……. Money $$$

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What are your ideas for Clutter Free Gifts?

Thank you for asking me about myself and about the challenges I face as someone who struggles with clutter and chronic disorganization.  First of all, there are reasons why I have these issues.  I may have learned these behaviours from a parent or maybe my parent was a neat freak and I just decided to do things differently than they did.  Or, perhaps, I grew up in a home where there were a lot of children and we didn’t have a lot of money and I always felt like I didn’t have what I needed.  There are reasons why I am challenged with my stuff.

I may have had a lot of trauma and losses in my life and get a lot of comfort being around all of my belongings and treasures.  They may remind me of happier times in my life.  If I have had some losses around relationships my stuff actually helps me to feel safe.  It means that others will not come in and cannot hurt me.  

There is a good chance that I experience mental health challenges and may suffer from Depression, Anxiety, ADHD and/or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  I may cancel appointments depending on how I am feeling that day. I really need to feel I am in a good space to tackle any task. This work can bring up a lot of anxiety which is very scary for me.

 If we are able to work together, please know that I may only be able to work for a short time.  I will probably hit a wall at some point and we will need to stop until next time. Trust is a huge issue for me. In the past people have tried to help me by throwing out my stuff when I was away from my home for the day or longer.  It felt like such a betrayal like a big part of myself was gone. It’s not helpful at all and I will likely just acquire even more stuff than I had before.

I need to be included in the plan for decluttering my space. Sometimes I will need you to explain to me in more detail as to what you think will help me. I might need to take some time to think about what I want to keep or to give away or let go of.  Gentle guidance and questions are helpful to me. I want to feel like I have a say in what stays and what goes. I know what is important for me and I need to be a part of the decision making process or I will not learn anything at all. I need to take and have control over my stuff!

I know that I do have talents and strengths, but I usually forget or minimize them. It would be great if you could help me remember that those strengths will help support me in our process together.

If I know that you understand, it will help me to feel more comfortable with this process. Please think of me as a sister, a mother, a daughter, and know that if you can be non judgemental, patient, nurturing, flexible, accessible, respectful, and compassionate you will be able to help me to make more space in my life and to make progress in my home. 

Thanks again for asking for my input and helping me. 

These are my words but I would love to know what you think or what you might add to this letter. Please comment on my blog or in a private message if you prefer, you can email me at kimtremblay@sympatico.ca

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I made a decision to consult with Kim via email, describing my goals for my office, and sending along 4-5 pics of it, as it currently looked. (messy, cluttered and disorganized).  She then asks some questions, and provided some excellent suggestions on where to start.  Fantastic deal for only $50.  Currently, I am giving her updates on my progress.  When I am all done, I will send her pics of the finished room.  My goal is to use this place as an arts and crafts room.  In going through this process, I realized that I am motivated by making myself accountable to someone else, besides myself.  I respond well to “homework”, and Kim’s ideas gave me a list of things to focus on, which I am currently working through. CL

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Happy Decluttering my friends!

Don’t let the title scare you?  It doesn’t mean that you are planning your death anytime soon.  It means that when you are well and you have a more time to focus on your home and belongings, this is the time to really assess every area of your home. Celebrate your life and then make decisions about what you absolutely need  and want to keep. What do you want to leave behind for others to sort through and to make decisions on?

Most of you probably know that my dad passed away this year and my mom just recently went into a Care Home and we (I have three siblings) have been clearing out their home in order to sell it. I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy process because my mom had not been bringing anything out of her room for donation in forever and I knew some of what she had been keeping. Also, I knew that not a lot of things had been taken out of my parents home at all for many years. It has been quite emotional for me as I slowly go through all of my moms items and try to understand why she felt it was so important to keep certain things. I am sure she was not thinking about us having to clear it all out.

This process has really helped me to think about my own belongings and what I want to leave behind. I recently pulled out some boxes that have not been looked at in a very long time and found some items that I didn’t even know I had.  I also came across some things that were all about my daughter who passed away at age 17 due to some physical health issues that she had.  My partner found me in a puddle on the floor when she came home from work one day but I told her it was all good.  It’s just something that only you can go through yourself.  And sometimes it’s just necessary.  And it’s totally okay to be sad and to cry.

Yes I was able to donate this collection. Please do not judge me! My memories of my daughter do not reside in this collection and I do not have the space or interest in displaying them. I am happy that someone else will now enjoy them.

Certain things are harder than others. ie: Journals, all greeting cards and old letters received from friends and loved ones, autograph books, gifts or heirlooms from loved ones who have passed and don’t get me started on photographs.  I am sure you can come up with so much more……..

You will want to allow yourself time to work through these things because It will bring up all the feels. This work is very emotional.  You likely wouldn’t have saved all of these things if you didn’t have a history and a story or feel some kind of attachment to them.  These items bring up all kinds of memories for us that can be revisited and cherished. And then decisions need to be made.

A precious gift I received from my mom for my 50th birthday was a photo book she put together for me which included little sayings and quotes.  She also gave me a box with letters and cards, report cards, some badges, etc.  This was such a thoughtful and most appreciated gift.  Why do we want to keep all these things buried or forgotten in a cupboard or closet? This is the thing you want share with others when you are alive.  This is the time to look at some of those things that might be hard.  Celebrate those moments.  

A popular book if you are interested in learning more about Swedish Death Cleaning is “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning” by Margareta Magnusson get it here

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What are the things that are hardest for you to let go of? Would love to hear from you. Please comment below.

The beginning of September is a great time for new routines and to look at what routines have been established over the year.  It’s also a good time to look at the goals you set at the beginning of the year and re-assess if needed. Goals usually do change. Some get done and new ones can also become important.  They are meant to be looked at and re-evaluated on an ongoing basis. Would you like some help with productivity? Check out the tips below……..

Some fall updates that have changed my routines and goals.  

• I have been focussed on healthier living goals which has meant daily yoga and walking and preparing and cooking healthier meals and snacks.  It’s always a work in progress and of course I have had some slips but I always find that I can get back on track quickly.  This goal for me has been so helpful as I feel better, have more energy and also feel more confident about how I look.  I have been able to wear some clothes that were hidden in my drawers and closet.  That feels pretty amazing!! 

• My 91 year old mom went into a Care Home on September 1 and has her own Studio Apt.  This is a big transition for my mom. She seems to be adjusting quite well.  I now have to travel farther to see her so I tend to listen to something inspiring on the way.  I have also had to find a few new stores to visit on my way there or on my way home to save on time.  We will soon be cleaning out my moms house so I am sure I will share more about that when the time comes.  Stay tuned! 

• We have a 14 year old grandson staying with us right now so that he can attend the local high school.  It is really a pleasure to have him but yes it has changed our routines somewhat.  Getting up earlier to make sure he gets ready and to school on time.  He starts at 7:55 a.m.  Whaat??  Anyway, it has just helped me to get to bed earlier and I love the early start in the morning.

A few tips on Productivity:

Staying organized is the key to less stress.  Planning for meals and snacks, keeping up with the chores, some decluttering and trying to get good sleep all help with feeling like I am being productive with my days.  Being productive makes me feel so good!  

Seasons of Love, Loss and Personal Power. This is the title of a chapter that is to be published in a book!  I know right!  I didn’t have a deadline but I knew it would come up eventually.  It is 3000 words.  What I did was I planned for 30 minutes of writing per week.  Yes, thats all.  I mean some weeks I would do more and some less.  I used the Pomodoro technique.  You can read more about it here if you like.  This is such a great little hack for me.  I now know that if I put my mind to something, I can finish it.   I will share more about my chapter with you coming up soon.

Think about the best time of day for you. When do you feel most productive? Early morning or late evening? This is the time to focus on those tasks that you are wanting to tackle. They are usually not as challenging as you think. We can spend a lot of time thinking about doing something and keeping it on our “to do” list forever. I once had a task on my list that I kept moving to the next week and then the next week. When I finally decided to do it, it took me 20 minutes.

Are you noticing new routines during this season? What are you noticing? How are you doing with your goals? being productive? Would love to hear from you.

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A few times a year, usually during the season changes, it is a really good idea to go through your clothing, keep what you love and what you wore during the previous season and discard anything that is old, doesn’t fit, doesn’t feel good to wear, etc. Make room for the new!

Have you heard of the 80/20 rule?  This rule can apply to many different things but for this we are focusing on clothing.  Did you know that we generally wear 20% of our clothing 80% of the time? I started using the “Hanger Method” before winter of last year and it has been a game changer for me. This has been all about tops and bottoms for me and definitely I am wearing a small amount of clothes that I love, most of the time.  

Hanger Method:  

– you have all of your hangers facing the same direction

– as you wear each of your clothing items turn the hanger the opposite way 

– if you don’t love the item or it doesn’t fit, its stained or worn out, put it right into the donation bag that is in your closet. 

– if it needs to be ironed or gets wrinkled as soon as you breathe out it goes. I love clothes I can roll up in a ball if needed (like in a suitcase) that do not get wrinkled.  The simpler the better for me.

-at the end of the season, you will notice all of the clothes that you didn’t wear and then you can make a decision about whether to keep them or not

Here is a pic of my current closet. These were the favourites over the winter. 

I really could get more matching hangers.  I really love the dollar store velvet hangers.  They are great for making sure your clothes don’t fall on the floor or into your laundry basket.  Just don’t twist around the hook at the top as it will just fall off eventually.  

Are you Ready? Let’s get started!

A little reminder: Once you have things in the donation bag or box, get them out of your home and to the charity of your choice as soon as possible.

Some great tips for Decluttering your Clothes:

1. Try on each piece of clothing.  How does it make you feel?  Does it make you feel like a queen?  In charge of your life? If not, get rid of it.
2. Clothing that no longer fits.  Too big or too small.  Even if your body changes and it will, you may need something different or that fits better.  See #1
3. Clothing that needs to be mended.  Are you going to get around to doing that alteration or has it been sitting in a pile for way too long?  I got rid of a pile of clothes that needed to be mended because I just didn’t feel like spending the time doing it.
4. Clothing from this past season that you didn’t wear?  Why didn’t you wear it?  Try the “hanger method”. There might be a lot of clothing that you never wear.  Why are you keeping it?  If you don’t love it and you didn’t wear it, likely you won’t wear it next season either.
5. Throw out anything that is looking old, with stains or broken zippers, etc. At the end of the season throw out old worn out boots or footwear.  You are going to need new ones for next year anyway. Easy peasy, right?
6. Sentimental items.  It can be hard to let go of a piece of clothing, boots, shoes or a purse that you have really loved.  But, if the item is old, worn out, doesn’t fit, etc. maybe it has served its purpose….thank the item and let it go.  Take a picture if you are worried you will forget about the item.
7. Going through your clothing will help you to see what you have, what you might need and also will give you so many more options for getting dressed in the morning. It can really make getting dressed a breeze.
8. Have an “exit strategy” A bag or a box ready for donations in your closet or near your doorway and get them out of your house asap.  

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