I believe we are all grieving some kind of loss. Whether it is the loss of our childhood, our health, a parent or a relationship we are all grieving. We cannot go back to the way things were as much as we wish we could. Have you ever said to your partner “I just want us to be the way we were before”. It’s just not possible because we all grow and change every day so we cannot go back to the way we were. This is where we need to work on being able to let go. Letting go of our dreams of how things were and how we might want them to be.
How can we let go of things in our lives that are causing us a lot of stress or are just not serving us? Are there people in your life that are weighing you down, holding you back or hurting you? It might not be as easy to let go of a person but if this person must be in your life, is there a way to set some boundaries?
What about actual stuff that we need/want to get rid of? Stuff we are hanging onto because of guilt, worry about just in case, a dream of the future, I am going to fix this someday, stuff that someone gave us that we don’t even like….you get the picture.
If we are having trouble letting go of some physical clutter then focussing on the emotional can really help to get the flow going. Writing or talking to someone can really help. Asking for help is a strength when you need it.
Ask: “What could I be letting go of? What in my physical or emotional environment is no longer helping me to move forward? What will I make space for in my life?”
I love this quote by Melody Beattie
“Letting go doesn’t mean we don’t care. Letting go doesn’t mean we shut down. Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible–controlling that which we cannot–and instead, focus on what is possible–which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible”.