Saying yes to yourself sometimes means saying no to others. There are times when you need to put yourself first because you deserve it and are worth it. Setting limits and boundaries with others and learning how to say No will help you to stay true to yourself. In the long run you will respect yourself and others will respect you as well. A win/win!!
Do you ever feel like you are on auto-pilot with no time for yourself and find that you put others needs before your own? Do you ever schedule personal time for yourself? That can really be difficult for most of us. We often put ourselves last on the list and just hope to get a little downtime in our day. We might not even know what to do or what to focus on if we had the time for ourselves. Some of us might just prefer to be busy in order to avoid some of those negative emotions that might come up.
What could you say no to in order to have more me time?
“Having an awareness of emotions and feelings is so key to helping you to speak your truth. This will help you to tackle your own personal goals and challenges.”
If you find yourself feeling resentful about how you are spending your time, this could be a clue that your boundaries are being stepped on. Perhaps you find yourself saying yes and then kicking yourself wishing you had said No. If that is the case, the next time someone asks you to do something or to help with something, decide that you are going to take a bit of breathing space. You could say something like “I will have to check my schedule or even just saying “I will get back to you on that”. Going for a walk, meditating on it or just taking some time for yourself to think about what you really want to do might be helpful.
For myself, I find when I do yoga (most mornings) I often feel inspired with some great thoughts and ideas for my day or perhaps some future planning. I often get some great ah ha moments during this me time. Actually, I believe that yoga gives me more time in the day. The same can be said for meditation as it helps us to slow down and to have some breathing space. Taking some time to breathe and regroup during your busy day can be beneficial as well. Check out this blog post for some ideas on how to be more grounded.
Maybe you have some personal de-cluttering or organizing goals that you have set for yourself but you just never seem to get to because other things always get in the way. This might just be a convenient excuse stopping you from doing this work especially if the things you want or feel you have to do are hard or just not fun. You might not have even thought of it that way. It is so easy to sabotage our own goals especially if no one else but ourselves know. Think about how this makes you feel about yourself over time?
What could you do to honour yourself and put yourself at the top of your list?
This is where some accountability can really be a benefit to help you to achieve your goals and to help you to make some progress with what you want for your life.
Thank you for following along and I welcome any comments or feedback. Happy De-cluttering!