Not easy as we tend to be on autopilot most days (myself included) but we can start to examine what our thought process is as we do this work. We will start to see where we are stuck and how to move forward.
Awareness is a big topic in the Clearing Clutter Support Group and happens immediately with week one.
Often around week three or four we ask members to bring in items from home that they know they want to let go of. Not something easy but something they are experiencing some conflict over. They know they want to let go but something stops them from doing so. I really love doing this exercise in the group as there are always so many great ah ha moments.
The first participant to share brought out a bag of jewellery that was handed down by family members. She said it was jewellery that she wouldn’t wear and had no one else to actually pass it to. She also had a silver pie server and spoon which would need to be cleaned with silver polish. She did not know who this came from and said she would never use it. This participant shed a few tears as she felt attached to these items. She felt good about passing them on to a program that makes new items out of old jewellery and other items. Often being able to donate to a good cause can help.
Another participant had an unopened boxed gift that had gathered a lot of dust and had been given to her from a young niece. It was a little wooden character that holds your glasses. This group member said she loved the gift because it was given to her by her niece but she won’t use it because she doesn’t wear glasses. After answering many questions she decided to repackage this gift and give it back to her niece at their next visit.
The third example was a gentleman who had a big pile of Shoppers Drug Mart gift cards. At first we all thought they were worth money but actually they had been purchased in order to receive more Shoppers Drug Mart Optimum points and they were used. Why he kept them is hard to understand, perhaps they had become invisible to him or he kept them as a reminder that he had purchased them? He did talk about how he can be lured in with marketing to try to get as many points as possible. In the end, he was able to discard all of these into the garbage bin.
“Awareness of your time, energy and emotions is key to being able to help with the letting go process”
Individuals become very aware of their time, energy, stuff around them, triggers, emotions and behaviours. Taking the time to really notice what is going on with your thoughts and feelings will help you as you continue to do this work. This is always the first step and will give you insight with your decluttering efforts. Paying attention and having awareness is your key to starting this process.
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