Next Steps For You and Me

We are now into the second full week of 2020 and it can feel challenging to get back into the groove.  How are you doing with your decluttering goals you have set for yourself?  Are you feeling motivated to get started? Do you know what your next steps are? 

A lot of people talk to me about procrastination.  They might even think that they procrastinate because they are lazy.  This is most likely not the case.  There is always a reason why we procrastinate.  Procrastinating is actually a way of protecting yourself and keeping yourself safe.  The reason you may feel stuck is because you are worried (even if it is subconscious) about uncomfortable feelings coming up if you start that organizing project.  We all probably can recall instances when we started something and we ended up feeling sad or angry, for a few days, weeks, etc.  Why would we want to go there?  Ugh!!

One day recently, I was going through my fabric (I am a sewer) looking for some fabric for a project with friends and I came across some fabric I was going to use to make things with my grandchildren.  All of a sudden I was just so sad.  There were tears and a few days of feeling down.  I tried to give the fabric to my friends but they didn’t want it.  After a few days, I thought to myself “Why not make something for my granddaughter I never met?” So, I started this project and while I work on it I think of her and what it will be like when I meet her.  I know she will love what I have created for her.  So, my point is that it is really about moving through the feelings and working on getting to the other side.  

It is a work in process but here it is. The bright pink will be the border.

I came across this statement recently and I really love it

“Success is in the action, not the outcome”

We have no control over the outcome of a situation only the action.  We can get really attached to the outcome and feel disappointed if things don’t go as expected.  If you can be more attached to your actions the outcome is just a bonus.  Just getting started is half the battle.

This is what one of the members of the Closed Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/had to say about Procrastination and Next Steps. “I have been doing just that for a few days now. Just moving furniture and stuff around until it feels right. Unfortunately it takes away from basic decluttering but I needed to make things physically work with my room priorities in mind before the organizing can happen. Ugh. Still lots to do. One step forward sometimes means taking 2 steps back first.” It is true that things can look worse before they look better. Don’t let that stop you from moving forward.

Do you find yourself doing other things instead of the task at hand? What do you find yourself doing instead?

Another saying I have been loving is 

“You either Win or you Learn”

I love this because I know I have failed many times and even thought it doesn’t feel good I always learn from it.  If you don’t try and take that first step you will stay stuck and you will never know that you could  have accomplished anything that you want.  Failure can be our biggest fear.  Never give up. It always gets easier and you can get past the fear. 

What am I working on this year?  

Here I am in Port Stanley taken on a nice sunny day last summer

My word for this year is Gratitude.  I did a 30 Day Gratitude Challenge and it was really quite amazing and life changing.  I bought myself a Gratitude Calendar.  Its the type that you rip off each day and each day has a beautiful message.  I am writing a gratitude message almost daily and putting them in a jar to be read another day.  It is really helpful with looking at life in a different way.  Don’t we all just need that these days.  

Met up with friends last week to work on our annual Vision Quest. (making Vision Boards and sharing our stories). So fun!! My big goals this year are all about loving myself.  I am working on a daily yoga practice, more walking (without the phone attached) and really paying attention to what I am putting into my body and my spirit.  

How about you?  What are your next steps? What is holding you back from taking that next step? What is one action you can take to move forward?  

I am available for a free 20 minute conversation to help you to get started. You can book with me here: https://SpaceForYou.as.me/ I can work with you virtually or in person in London, Ontario.  

About Kim

I am a Clutter Coach and an Expert on Clutter, Chronic Disorganization and Hoarding. My passion is working with individuals to help them to clear the physical and emotional clutter in their lives. I facilitate a Clearing Clutter Support Group which has helped hundreds of individuals to make positive changes in their homes and life. I credit the individuals I have met through my work in mental health for teaching me empathy, compassion and that all of us have strengths that can help us to achieve our goals. I work with individuals in their homes as well as offer workshops in the community. I would love to come out to speak to your group on How to Declutter Your Life and Mind.
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6 Responses to Next Steps For You and Me

  1. Kim, I love the statement “Success is in the action, not the outcome.” A speaker at a POC Conference a number of years ago said something similar. He said you can’t control the outcome; you can only control what YOU do. So your goal shouldn’t be to make a certain amount in sales, but to take speciifc actions, e.g. make 10 calls a day. I found that interesting then and even more so when you apply it to other goals. Thanks for the reminder!

  2. Seana Turner says:

    I am with Janet on loving that quote. In fact, I think I will share it with my client this afternoon! It really does keep us focused on our input, rather than the output over which we have limited control. That feels empowering. I love your word for the year – I think you are going to have a fabulous year with that one!

    • Kim says:

      Thanks so much Seana – its a great quote. Awesome, to share with your client. Yes I am planning on having a fabulous year 🙂 I wish the same for you

  3. Thank you for so openly sharing your journey. It’s inspiring how you face your challenges, sit with them, feel them, and take action. I love the description of the Gratitude Challenge you did. A few years back, I worked on a Positivity Portfolio and part of it involved a gratitude piece- each day for a month I wrote a note of appreciation and gratitude to someone special in my life. It was an amazing experience. It’s not that I don’t regularly appreciate the people in my life, but I don’t necessarily write them a note on a daily basis. There is so much to be grateful for and when we’re on the look, we notice even more.

    I like the success quote you mention. It reminds me of one I came across recently from Todd Henry who says, “Your life and success will not be defined by the nouns you choose. It will be defined by the verbs.”

    • Kim says:

      Thank you for your comment Linda
      My word for the year Gratitude is already working wonders for me. I am loving it 🙂 Love your quote. So true!

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