We are now into the second full week of 2020 and it can feel challenging to get back into the groove. How are you doing with your decluttering goals you have set for yourself? Are you feeling motivated to get started? Do you know what your next steps are?
A lot of people talk to me about procrastination. They might even think that they procrastinate because they are lazy. This is most likely not the case. There is always a reason why we procrastinate. Procrastinating is actually a way of protecting yourself and keeping yourself safe. The reason you may feel stuck is because you are worried (even if it is subconscious) about uncomfortable feelings coming up if you start that organizing project. We all probably can recall instances when we started something and we ended up feeling sad or angry, for a few days, weeks, etc. Why would we want to go there? Ugh!!
One day recently, I was going through my fabric (I am a sewer) looking for some fabric for a project with friends and I came across some fabric I was going to use to make things with my grandchildren. All of a sudden I was just so sad. There were tears and a few days of feeling down. I tried to give the fabric to my friends but they didn’t want it. After a few days, I thought to myself “Why not make something for my granddaughter I never met?” So, I started this project and while I work on it I think of her and what it will be like when I meet her. I know she will love what I have created for her. So, my point is that it is really about moving through the feelings and working on getting to the other side.
I came across this statement recently and I really love it
“Success is in the action, not the outcome”
We have no control over the outcome of a situation only the action. We can get really attached to the outcome and feel disappointed if things don’t go as expected. If you can be more attached to your actions the outcome is just a bonus. Just getting started is half the battle.
This is what one of the members of the Closed Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/had to say about Procrastination and Next Steps. “I have been doing just that for a few days now. Just moving furniture and stuff around until it feels right. Unfortunately it takes away from basic decluttering but I needed to make things physically work with my room priorities in mind before the organizing can happen. Ugh. Still lots to do. One step forward sometimes means taking 2 steps back first.” It is true that things can look worse before they look better. Don’t let that stop you from moving forward.
Do you find yourself doing other things instead of the task at hand? What do you find yourself doing instead?
Another saying I have been loving is
“You either Win or you Learn”
I love this because I know I have failed many times and even thought it doesn’t feel good I always learn from it. If you don’t try and take that first step you will stay stuck and you will never know that you could have accomplished anything that you want. Failure can be our biggest fear. Never give up. It always gets easier and you can get past the fear.
What am I working on this year?
My word for this year is Gratitude. I did a 30 Day Gratitude Challenge and it was really quite amazing and life changing. I bought myself a Gratitude Calendar. Its the type that you rip off each day and each day has a beautiful message. I am writing a gratitude message almost daily and putting them in a jar to be read another day. It is really helpful with looking at life in a different way. Don’t we all just need that these days.
Met up with friends last week to work on our annual Vision Quest. (making Vision Boards and sharing our stories). So fun!! My big goals this year are all about loving myself. I am working on a daily yoga practice, more walking (without the phone attached) and really paying attention to what I am putting into my body and my spirit.
How about you? What are your next steps? What is holding you back from taking that next step? What is one action you can take to move forward?
I am available for a free 20 minute conversation to help you to get started. You can book with me here: https://SpaceForYou.as.me/ I can work with you virtually or in person in London, Ontario.