Do you ever hear yourself saying “change is so hard” or “I really don’t like change”? I have heard this a lot from friends and clients. The more we say this to ourselves, the more we believe these statements to be true. Changes whether they are hard or not, will help us to grow. I have always said “I love change” but really, what I mean is that as long as its a positive change then I am all for it.
But, what if it isn’t a great change? This past year and a half is testimony to that. There are things that happen that we have no control over and we cannot change or fix. That is hard!
Personally, I have been going through some changes and losses over the past year within my family. Helping to take care of my dad who has had medical issues for many years and just passed February 1 at the age of 91. Now taking care of my 91 year old mom who continues to be in her home on her own and is having some challenges of her own.
The family dynamics have changed as well and this is a situation that I cannot fix. So, I choose to be mindful and kind always. I know we will get through this and I just want to handle each moment with courage, grace and wisdom. Being mindful in this situation to me means being aware of the emotions that come up, reaching out to others for support, reading as much as I can to learn about aging and taking care and being kind to myself.
What about change that comes from decluttering?
Reaching out for help can mean that you are ready to make some changes. And that can be scary or stressful because then “you have to do the work” I get it!
What if……….you had everything decluttered the way you want it and you were able to maintain your space…………What would this mean for you? How would you feel?
“To change skins, evolve into new cycles, I feel one has to learn to discard. If one changes internally, one should not continue to live with the same objects. They reflect one’s mind and the psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has no dynamic, living use.” Anais Nin
It is so important to check in with yourself and know who you are today. Living intentionally means that it is not about the past or about the future. Think about what is most important for you today. What do you need to let go of to allow more of yourself to shine through?
This quote came to mind after a group member talked about the risks of making a change.
Making changes can be stressful. Practicing self acceptance and compassion can help you to appreciate yourself wherever you are in this process. Reward yourself for the effort you are making. You wouldn’t be here if you didn’t want to make positive changes in your life.
Did you know that Coffee Chats are happening on Zoom once a month with members from the Declutter Your Life and Mind Facebook Group? They are so fun and inspirational. Join us for some lively discussion about all things organizing. You will need to join our group as our chats are confidential of course. You can join here
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