Motivation and Getting Past the Overwhelm

Yes, You can do this!

Have you ever noticed that when you least expect it, something happens and you have to deal with it right away. All of a sudden you have to stop whatever you are doing and get this thing dealt with.  So, imagine, there is water all over the floor because the toilet overflowed or there is a bird in your furnace ductwork. Ugh!  Yes, both of these things have happened to me.  All of a sudden we are in a crisis and have no choice but to deal with it.  So that is one way that motivation can work.  

Of course, that it is not always the way motivation works  We might identify something as a problem and it’s not really a high priority or we might not even recognize it as a problem.  Or, we don’t know how to deal with it or maybe we just don’t really feel like dealing with it.  

Motivation definitely ebbs and flows.  For me, I have always been “the glass is always half full” kind of gal which I am sure has helped me a lot with my chosen work.  I have my ups and downs as well as anybody but I always hope for more up days. And motivation can really be like that.  One day we are feeling on top of the world and we can feel like we can handle anything and another day we just want to hit the couch, watch Netflix and eat popcorn.  It is important to honour yourself and how you are feeling.  

How often have you heard these statements before? “Just get started”, “just do it” or just get it done” ? What if you really just can’t seem to get started? You can have the best intentions but other things get in the way. You may have other priorities, you are tired, or other people’s problems seem more important than your own. Maybe you don’t know where to start or how to do it. There could also be some fears that come up. For example: What if I get started, then what – I will have to continue with this process and I might have to let go of some things.  I might fail. When you think back to other times when you have worked on your clutter and uncomfortable emotions came up, it can be scary to think of going back there again.

It can be important to think about what the obstacles might be for you.  

Would you like more inspiration on Getting Motivated (to declutter)? Check out this post……https://spaceforyou.ca/2020/05/25/how-to-get-motivated-to-declutter/

Three Tips to help you to get motivated and to get past the overwhelm

The most popular response to “What helps me to be more organized?” (from the Declutter Your Life and Mind Group) is ta da:

1. The “To Do” List

Sounds pretty simple and it is and very effective too.  Just writing it down, gets it out of your head and onto paper.  It becomes more than just an idea.  It becomes more real and it then helps you to be accountable to yourself.  A lot of group members will post their goals or challenges in the FB group and that is a great way to be accountable as well, but not necessary.  Just be accountable to yourself for now.  Write a list for the day or the week, five items, prioritize them and see what you can do.  Then there is the satisfaction of crossing that item off the list.  You can also have a “ta done” list which means that when you find yourself doing a chore that wasn’t on your list, write it down and cross it off.  Yeah!  Feels good. Right? 

2. What are your reasons for “needing or wanting” to do this work?  

What is your why?  Why do you need or want to do this work?  What is your motivation for doing this work?. Do you want to sleep in your bed, cook in your kitchen or have some friends or family over?  Having a goal for yourself can be really helpful in getting going and pushing through even when the going gets tough.  Another way to look at your why is to think about how do I want to feel at the end of the day?  Do I want to feel like I was productive during the day so now I can relax, feel calm and at peace, feel happy to be in my clutter-free space.  What are your reasons for doing this work.  

3. How to Tame the Overwhelm

Do you find yourself saying “it’s all just too much”. “I feel so overwhelmed” or “I can’t even seem to get started.”? I would suggest starting with easier tasks or easier areas. That way there is that immediate successful thing you have done.  Remember “Small is Huge” which just means that we need to look at what we did do and not what still needs to be done.  Being consistent, scheduling time every day whether it’s 5, 10 or 15 minutes – just do what you can. You will start to see some progress. Start to create a new habit.  Reward yourself for a job well done. 

Are you having difficulty getting motivated to declutter? Would you like to dive a little deeper? Sign up to receive my FREE Get Motivated to Declutter Webinar? I will add you to the list.

And always remember to be kind to yourself.  This is intense work, this is your journey and you get to decide how much or how little you want to do.

Would love to hear from you……….. How do you get motivated and what helps you to get past the overwhelm?

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What’s for Dinner During a Pandemic?

Do you have anxiety knowing you need to get out to get groceries?  What about the big question of what’s for dinner?  What if you haven’t been cooking in your home much before the Covid19 Pandemic started?  A lot of us do not even like cooking and what about the chores surrounding the cooking? Eek!!  First, there is the planning about what to cook, then the shopping, then putting away the food (which I know is challenging for some). Then making sure there is a space to cook (my pet peeve), cooking the food (even though you don’t  really feel like it), eating it which usually takes about 10 – 15 minutes, then cleaning up. UGH!! Its just never ending.  And then what is the plan for the next meal???

What would make it all easier and what has changed for you during this time?  Okay, I am going to be honest here.  Personally, I do not love cooking all the time but I do love to eat and want to be as healthy as possible so I have taken on this task. It’s fun to try new things and I am pretty adventurous in the kitchen.  Thankfully, I have a partner who will clean up and do dishes.  I am so blessed with that.  If I am ready to cook up a meal, I really love to have clean counters and not a lot of dishes.  We do have ‘small kitchen syndrome” so it’s important to keep it as clean and clear as possible. My partner also likes to treat us with take out every once in awhile just to give me a break in the kitchen.

What have I learned over this time of Covid19?

I plan the meals so I am the one who gets groceries and I have been working on a plan to go once a week and sometimes I can even stretch it out a bit longer. It can be challenging especially when it comes to having fresh fruits and vegetables. I solved that problem by hooking up with a weekly or bi-weekly Food Basket which has been a great way to support local farms and I get some nice fresh fruit and veg. Win/Win!

This is what I got this weekend in my box

How are you doing with planning out your food for the week?  If you are home full time, do you plan for leftovers?  I love leftovers because it makes for an easy meal for the next day and I am not spending as much time in the kitchen. It’s great to get a break and an opportunity to catch up on other things.

My sister has been trying to get me to purchase one of those meal plans like Chef’s Plate. The ads keeps popping up on Facebook and they do look interesting but I haven’t tried it yet.  So, the food comes with cold packs, all prepped with the recipes and you just cook it up and voila……dinner on the table.  There is a cost but if you are not eating out as much or you just want to save yourself some time and the bonus of convenience, they sound like a fun way to try something new.  You might also learn some new recipes. I am planning to try them soon.

Some ideas to help during the pandemic

  • Use up the fresh fruit and veg first. Buy fruit and veg with a longer shelf life like apples, oranges, potatoes. If they have seen better days you can freeze them for smoothies or muffins.  Have frozen fruit and veg in your freezer for when you run out of fresh.  Depending on the size of your freezer, stock up on fries, frozen fish, chicken or other favourites that are easy to go from freezer to stove and to the table.
  • Keep your pantry stocked with canned meat like tuna and salmon, canned beans are great (one of my favourites is bean quesadilla’s yummy), lots of tomato sauces to make up a quick spaghetti dish, some soups to go with grilled cheese – think about what you love that is easiest to make and with less cleanup too.
  • Make sure you have an ongoing shopping list so that you do not find yourself aimlessly walking around the grocery store. I do an inventory of what is in the freezer and the cupboards before I head out to the store. It’s a good idea to bring food from the back to the front in order to avoid expiry dates or freezer burn. Yuk!!
  • Instant Pots have become really popular and are great for when it is really too hot to cook. You can get a small size one too which is great for one or two people. The biggest chore with an instant pot is getting everything prepped beforehand but once thats done it all goes in the pot and before you know it dinner is ready. It also doubles as an crockpot. Seriously, just donate the old one.

This is a really great time to look at how you have been doing things and perhaps trying some new things. Moving forward we would hope that we can save time and money, live more simply and be healthier than ever.

Would love to hear your tips and how you are managing with all things shopping, cooking, cleaning up and your favourite and easiest things to cook up?

If you would like to get started on decluttering your life please join my FREE 5 Day Declutter Your Life and Mind Challenge (link is on this page) to get started and stay tuned for a Free Webinar coming up soon on getting motivated called Get Motivated to Declutter

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How To Get Motivated? (to declutter)

Hint: It’s not that you aren’t motivated.

What helps you to get motivated?  

How to get more motivated is a huge theme in our Declutter Your Life and Mind Group – for more motivation check us out here https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/  

How do you get motivated?

Some of their responses: 

“Knowing that I will eventually be moving from this house and wanting to lighten the load before I actually have to pack”

“Praying and smudging help me to both clear out the negative and to bring in divine spiritual help” 

“Making a list. Once I’ve written something down, it’s concrete – not just an idea I’m kicking around. I feel great accomplishment when I can cross things off of a list!”

“If I’m having trouble I do a task that makes me happy or isn’t too bad. It helps me to jumpstart to not START with a dreaded task”

“Having a goal in mind really helps – having a plan for a space which could mean activities in that room or having people over, cooking a healthy meal. Personally, I love changing up my space and trying to improve it. The end result gives you a different feeling and it can really feel great”

Motivation is a tricky thing and it can be hard to figure out what is going on and what holds us back.  Group members say they are not motivated or wish they were more motivated (to declutter)  We are motivated to do other things that we want to do or maybe that we have to do.  So, really it’s not that we are not motivated.

So, how do we really get motivated (to declutter)

Why do you want to declutter?

Internal or External Reasons?

An internal reason could be something like “I want to clean up this room because my son/friend is coming to visit for awhile” or “I want to use my garage for its intended purpose” or “my goal is to declutter in order to live in a less chaotic environment, have friends over without feeling embarrassment or to find clothes to wear or to sleep in my bed”.  

Having internal reasons for wanting to make changes will determine whether you will be more successful and will have longer lasting effects because you have more of a personal desire for change and a buy in.

External reasons would be things like  “My landlord wants me to clean up or I could lose my apartment, my daughter has decided to “help” me to clean up because she thinks I have a problem or I know I need to clean up and declutter but I feel so overwhelmed that I wouldn’t even know where to start or what to do so why bother. Other people have a problem with it, but I really think it’s not that bad.”  

External reasons could be successful but once the crisis has passed things will likely go back to the way things were. Threats of punishment usually don’t work.  It is much harder to engage in the task if it wasn’t your idea to start with and you were not committed to the process. 

Are you avoiding uncomfortable feelings?

Decluttering and or organizing bring up uncomfortable feelings. They just do so, of course, who wouldn’t want to avoid anything that is uncomfortable. Avoidance of these feelings protects us from depression and anxiety.    So, if we are going to be decluttering, we want to be in a good space.  Check out this post for more info and support https://spaceforyou.ca/2018/05/16/getting-past-fear-and-emotional-clutter/

Do you feel like you are just waiting for something? 

Especially during this time of Covid 19, it can really feel like we are waiting……waiting for something to change, waiting until we can donate our belongings, waiting until we can have visits again.  It can really feel like we are stuck and cannot do anything until…….  

Is there something difficult that you need to do?

If this is the case, this is actually a form of emotional clutter and can really keep you stuck and not able to actualize your goals. Procrastinating about this even makes it worse.  I was in this place recently where I needed to have a difficult conversation with someone and it was taking all of my energy.  I finally had the conversation and what a lift this was off my shoulders.  This could be a reason that it is hard to get started but once you do the hard thing, it just opens up possibility for you.  

Would you like some accountability?

Accountability can make the world of difference. Having someone to check in with or to talk to at the end of the day can really help you to make progress and to be successful with your decluttering goals. There are opportunities for accountability in the Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/ or if you would like a discovery call with me you can book a time here https://SpaceForYou.as.me/

What helps you to be motivated? (to declutter) Let us know in the comments below:

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How to Help Your Child Get More Organized

Are your children organized?  Do you wish they would just pick up after themselves? Is your child a collector of sorts and cannot let anything go? Would you like to help your children to be more organized? I have to be honest here.  I don’t have any young children living in my home but I did at one time.  I do have grandchildren visiting from time to time and I do expect them to clean up after themselves, make the bed for the next sleepover, pack up their clothes, etc. etc. Children need these kind of guidelines or boundaries and I believe they learn respect when they know what is expected of them. Our grands love to come over for Gramma time (x2) and a sleepover. Of course, at this time we are all missing each other. Hopefully we will all be able to visit again soon.

What if your child is a Collector (of stones, feathers, shells, treasures, etc.)

If you have a child like this, perhaps you could help them to have a way to display their items.  If they start to get too much, help them to be able to make decisions about which ones to let go of.  Always reward them for not bringing something home and/or for discarding items.

What if your child loves everything?  

Ask your child to pick out a number of items (say 10) that they love.  Next ask them to rate each of the items on a scale of 1 – 10 as to how much they love the item and how much they need or want the item.  Ask them if they are able to let go of their least favourite item.  If they are having trouble with this and think they cannot let go of this or any item, suggest that someone (maybe you) hold on to it for them for a week. They will think they can’t do it but they can. At the end of the week ask them how they are feeling, if they have actually missed the item and if they are now willing to let go of the item. Praise them if they can follow through.  

What if your child has a hard time with making decisions?  

I see this a lot with my clients as well.  I really believe that being comfortable with making decisions has to do with self esteem, knowing who you are and what you want and trusting your intuition.  It is something that takes time and practice.  To help children, I suggest offering children a choice whenever possible.  For example; “do you want to wear the pink pyjamas or the blue pyjamas tonight?” 

What if your child likes to acquire things?  

Teach your children that there is a difference between Need and Want.  Ask them questions such as “do you have room for that?”, “where will you put it”, “how will you use it?”  Make a deal with your child.  If you really believe you “need” it, then you have to make room by getting rid of something else.  Limiting items might be helpful, explaining to children that there is only so much space so this is what we will allow in this space.  

What if your child does not want to clean up?  

As a busy parent, I really get it.  It can really feel easier and quicker to do it yourself.  However, you will want to have patience and take the time to show and help your child to put their toys and things away. Everything needs to have a home and keep like with like.  This will make things easier for you and your child. This will help your child to see what he has and to help him to have respect for his belongings. Don’t forget that you are your child’s role model. They learn from you.  

What if your child doesn’t want to let go of anything? 

Generally, I do not think it is a good idea to get rid of children’s belongings (or anyone’s for that matter) without their permission.  Especially for children eight years and older.  If they figure out that their belongings have been discarded, this can be traumatic for them and likely they will hang onto their items even tighter.  If your child is pretty adamant that they cannot discard anything it may be time to get some outside help.  There are ways to help children and the earlier this can be addressed the better.  

Some of the therapies would be things like Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Mental Health Treatment for OCD, Anxiety, Trauma, etc.  Dialectical Behavioural Therapy.   

Here is an awesome online resource I found with videos that are made especially for children who are struggling with challenging issues. These are videos that you can watch with your child.

Children need to be encouraged to follow their passions no matter what they are. Never shame or blame your child.  Honour their choices.  Parenting is the hardest job we will ever have. Kudos to all the parents out there who are doing the best everyday. Please let me know if you have found this post to be helpful. Happy Decluttering!

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Can De-Cluttering Be A Spiritual Practice?

It was such an honour to be invited to speak at The Circle Women’s Collective on the topic of De-Cluttering as a Spiritual Practice. I was nervous and excited as I have been involved in The Circle on and off for many years and have always looked up to these amazing women.  This was such a rich topic with many gems of wisdom (participants words not mine) throughout the night. 

The Altar at the Circle Event

My Thoughts From the Evening 

Having a Daily Practice

Do you have a daily practice?  This can really make a difference in your day.  Whether it is being grateful, meditating, smudging, praying, doing a bit of writing or just being with yourself for a short period of time, this practice will help you to get through your day in a more conscious way.  Those who have a daily practice will say that they can tell if they miss it.  I have a daily practice of yoga and walking when I can without being attached to my phone, having an awareness of nature and the beauty that surrounds me.  

Clearing with Compassion 

Not attacking the clutter, but clearing with compassion!  Having the attitude of I am going to attack that clutter only gets your adrenalin going and you end up feeling aggressive about the process.  Clearing with compassion means that you will not fizzle out so fast.  Also, going at your own speed is always the best. I always encourage people to have compassion for themselves for doing this work as it is important, personal work.  It is a process that we go through in our own time.  We know when we are ready to go through that box or to start to work on that closet. Think about clearing with compassion and awareness of the process, being kind to yourself and paying attention to your emotions.

Letting Go With Grace and Gratitude

We do have a choice and that is that we can struggle with holding on to our stuff, second guessing ourselves about making a decision, leaving it in the donation bag or box by the door where it sits for weeks, maybe months. or We can decide that we will work through these challenging emotions as they come up and let the items go with grace and gratitude.  Maybe the item was a gift given with good intention. It is now covered with dust, has served its purpose, it is not being used, we do not love it or need it, it’s just taking up space in our homes and in our hearts. Let it go with grace and gratitude. 

Accepting Where We Are Right Now

This is all about just starting where we are now with loving acceptance.  We know that clearing out the hard stuff can be challenging. And that is okay. This article might help https://spaceforyou.ca/2014/10/02/letting-go/ Clutter can be all about the past (regrets, happy or sad memories, losses, lost opportunities) and it can also be all about the future as well (worry, just in case I need it someday) We really hang on tightly to these beliefs because they  serve us in some way. Clearing clutter needs to be about now. The best place to start is looking at what is going on today. We only have control over what we can do today.  So we start from where we are now with compassion and loving acceptance. 

Thinking About Our Own Legacy

We know we are not going to be here forever and we need to think about what we are leaving behind for others to go through.  Do you want to leave behind memories of what your life was all about or do you want your loved ones to be going through boxes of items that you carried around with you for years and years and never went through.  Again, it is your choice.  Downsize now while you can.  What type of legacy do you want to leave behind?

Would you like to work with me? I am currently accepting new clients to work with online via Zoom or FaceTime. Sign up here for a free 20 minute Consultation Call https://SpaceForYou.as.me/. This might be just what you need to get started on your journey to Decluttering Your Life.

What do you do as a daily practice to make space for yourself and your goals? Please comment below…….

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Working From Home – It’s Messy!

Working from home is messy.  It has never really appealed to me but now I find myself in this position.  When I was working at CMHA, My Sisters’ Place, I was offered a “Work from Home” day and I never took advantage of it because I knew that I would so easily be distracted by other things.  It is just too easy to do anything other than the task at hand.   I will find myself cleaning and organizing, doing dishes, getting dinner ready instead of doing some other task that is a bit of a challenge and one I might want to procrastinate on.  Or, possibly, I might find myself scrolling on Facebook, reading articles online and going down that rabbit hole. Can you relate to this? It really takes some discipline to be able to accomplish our own personal goals.  

My office in my home is in the basement and when I really need to focus and need quiet, it is really the best place for me to go to get some work done.  Usually, what I will do is make a plan to be at my desk for a period of time like one or two hours.  I sometimes use the Pomodoro technique to stay focused on what I am working on.  https://spaceforyou.ca/2015/04/13/a-time-management-tool-to-help-with-focus/ I use the timer on my phone to keep focused as I don’t actually have a timer that looks like a tomato.  

Here is my messy desk
Here is another view of my office space. Its really a great space and I love it when I am in the zone.

My most favourite place to be, though, is at my chair in the living room.  I can find myself creating a little nest around this space with paperwork, journals, to do lists, books I am reading and also other little projects I have on the go.  It really is my happy place. Where is your happy place? I find myself going through the piles on a regular basis just to keep my focus on what is most important.  Seems to work for me for the most part.  I really prefer a creative mess to work in. 

This is kind of what happens
And then this – its a creative mess 🙂

I have had fantasies of taking my computer to a coffee shop and doing a lot of writing there. It was on my list as a goal for quite awhile, but I just never seem to do it.  I guess I am most comfortable being at home.  

The very best part about working from home is the ability to work at your own pace and on your own time. Take breaks when you want, schedule clients at the best times for you and the fact that you can work in your pyjamas is a bonus.

I can help you with your office space. Office space is often about clearing some space to work, paperwork, boxes of old papers that need to be shredded, a better configuration of your space and once cleared with a focus, can help you to move forward in whatever your heart desires.

I am now offering Free 20 minutes consultation/intake calls. The call might help you to get moving or perhaps we could work together in person or virtually. Sign up here https://SpaceForYou.as.me/ 

If you would like more motivation and inspiration to achieve your decluttering goals please join us in the Closed and Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/

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Make S.P.A.C.E. For You

Make S.P.A.C.E. For You

How can you make more S.P.A.C.E. in your life for what you truly want?  What can you do to make more S.P.A.C.E. For You? Do you have a project you have been thinking about working on? Here is a process that will help you to see your project all the way through.. Let’s dive in…….

S.P.A.C.E. = SUPPORT, PLANNING, ATTENTION, CREATION, ENJOY

SUPPORT

Having SUPPORT to work on your decluttering project can be key to getting started and also to the success of carrying it through to completion.  Whether you ask for support from a friend, family member or a Professional Organizer like me, it really doesn’t matter.  Admitting and asking for help can be the hard part but if you have tried numerous times with different strategies maybe it’s time to ask.  I always feel so honoured to be asked for advice or to help someone.  

PLANNING

I have heard that in business if you don’t have a plan that it can be kind of like throwing spaghetti at the wall.  It feels like we are doing about a hundred things but then we are not really getting anywhere.  Ugh!!  I am guilty of this as well.  Having a plan for how you are going to carry out your project is key to success. Think about your why and your goals for this project.  Having a plan means you are focussed and will stay with the project you are working on.  If the task feels too big or overwhelming, then it needs to be broken down into smaller, manageable and realistic steps.  Planning means making sure you have the time to work on your project, you have the needed supplies, ie: boxes, bags, tape, etc., snacks, food and drinks available, and you have the time to take breaks as needed.  

ATTENTION

Ah, one of my favourite topics.  You will want to be in a good space when you are beginning this work so it can be helpful to do some grounding or a meditation beforehand.  Paying attention to what you want for yourself, how you are feeling whether it’s positive or negative (both will come up), and working through those feelings. If you are feeling stuck, this would be a good time to take a break, go for a walk and ponder the questions, write about your resistance and make sure you have SUPPORT for yourself.  If you are having trouble getting focused, check out this blog post on the Pomodoro Technique.   https://spaceforyou.ca/2015/04/13/a-time-management-tool-to-help-with-focus/     I use it all the time when I really need to stay with the task at hand. You could also try working for the duration of one song or a whole CD.  Whatever works for you.  

CREATION

This is the fun part.  This is when you start to see the fruits of your labour and see what is possible.  Perhaps, some clutter has left your home and you are left with furniture or items that you absolutely love and want in your space.  Maybe a beautiful picture or family photos could go on the walls.  A colour scheme might pop out as you look at your space with new eyes.  What is possible in this space?  Do you have space to move around, space for company?  Space to relax? How do you see yourself in this space?  What are you doing in this space? What were your end goals for your project? 

ENJOY

Now its time to really enjoy your space.  Ooh, doesn’t that sound nice.  Admire your work. Reward yourself for a job well done.   Do something nice for yourself like sitting down to read a book, watch a movie, make a coffee date with a friend, give yourself a break whatever that is.  Pat yourself on the back for doing this project and seeing it through.  Now you know that you can do it.  Doesn’t matter if the project was big or small.  Actually, starting small is good because it helps you to develop your confidence in knowing that you can do it!  Enjoy, my friend.   

Remember, You are important and you cannot be there for others if you do not fill up your own well first.  This is powerful and life changing work and you are so worth it.  Think about what you want for yourself in your home, your life and your space. Put yourself first.

I am currently taking on new clients, in person and online. I have a few openings each week for a free 20 minute call to explore the options that will work best for you. You can sign up here https://SpaceForYou.as.me/

Could this model work for you? Would love to hear about your project and whether you think this could help you? or not?…….Pray tell…..

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Next Steps For You and Me

We are now into the second full week of 2020 and it can feel challenging to get back into the groove.  How are you doing with your decluttering goals you have set for yourself?  Are you feeling motivated to get started? Do you know what your next steps are? 

A lot of people talk to me about procrastination.  They might even think that they procrastinate because they are lazy.  This is most likely not the case.  There is always a reason why we procrastinate.  Procrastinating is actually a way of protecting yourself and keeping yourself safe.  The reason you may feel stuck is because you are worried (even if it is subconscious) about uncomfortable feelings coming up if you start that organizing project.  We all probably can recall instances when we started something and we ended up feeling sad or angry, for a few days, weeks, etc.  Why would we want to go there?  Ugh!!

One day recently, I was going through my fabric (I am a sewer) looking for some fabric for a project with friends and I came across some fabric I was going to use to make things with my grandchildren.  All of a sudden I was just so sad.  There were tears and a few days of feeling down.  I tried to give the fabric to my friends but they didn’t want it.  After a few days, I thought to myself “Why not make something for my granddaughter I never met?” So, I started this project and while I work on it I think of her and what it will be like when I meet her.  I know she will love what I have created for her.  So, my point is that it is really about moving through the feelings and working on getting to the other side.  

It is a work in process but here it is. The bright pink will be the border.

I came across this statement recently and I really love it

“Success is in the action, not the outcome”

We have no control over the outcome of a situation only the action.  We can get really attached to the outcome and feel disappointed if things don’t go as expected.  If you can be more attached to your actions the outcome is just a bonus.  Just getting started is half the battle.

This is what one of the members of the Closed Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/had to say about Procrastination and Next Steps. “I have been doing just that for a few days now. Just moving furniture and stuff around until it feels right. Unfortunately it takes away from basic decluttering but I needed to make things physically work with my room priorities in mind before the organizing can happen. Ugh. Still lots to do. One step forward sometimes means taking 2 steps back first.” It is true that things can look worse before they look better. Don’t let that stop you from moving forward.

Do you find yourself doing other things instead of the task at hand? What do you find yourself doing instead?

Another saying I have been loving is 

“You either Win or you Learn”

I love this because I know I have failed many times and even thought it doesn’t feel good I always learn from it.  If you don’t try and take that first step you will stay stuck and you will never know that you could  have accomplished anything that you want.  Failure can be our biggest fear.  Never give up. It always gets easier and you can get past the fear. 

What am I working on this year?  

Here I am in Port Stanley taken on a nice sunny day last summer

My word for this year is Gratitude.  I did a 30 Day Gratitude Challenge and it was really quite amazing and life changing.  I bought myself a Gratitude Calendar.  Its the type that you rip off each day and each day has a beautiful message.  I am writing a gratitude message almost daily and putting them in a jar to be read another day.  It is really helpful with looking at life in a different way.  Don’t we all just need that these days.  

Met up with friends last week to work on our annual Vision Quest. (making Vision Boards and sharing our stories). So fun!! My big goals this year are all about loving myself.  I am working on a daily yoga practice, more walking (without the phone attached) and really paying attention to what I am putting into my body and my spirit.  

How about you?  What are your next steps? What is holding you back from taking that next step? What is one action you can take to move forward?  

I am available for a free 20 minute conversation to help you to get started. You can book with me here: https://SpaceForYou.as.me/ I can work with you virtually or in person in London, Ontario.  

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My Very Real Year in Review

This past year sure has flown by.  I really believe it is so important to look at your past year and review what you did whether it was positive or negative. This will certainly help you with working on new intentions and to manifest what you want for the New Year. This is a very candid and vulnerable re-cap of what is going on for me.

I did retire early so that I could continue to do this amazing work with people who have issues with overwhelming clutter and hoarding.   This has been a daily thing for me as I support others with my Facebook Private Group, read as much as possible, work one on one with individuals, collaborate with other professionals, offer talks in the community and declutter my own home. Lol

It feels so good to be home

I have been nesting in my home with my partner, making some changes and really making our place work for us.  I love taking my time in the morning, reading and writing, making healthy food, going for walks and working on my yoga/meditation practice.  Time and space is such a gift.

I am spending more and more time with my 89 year old parents.  I am so grateful that I have amazing siblings.  We are all close by and all are involved with my parents.  They are so appreciative and realize how fortunate they are to have this family support.  We are their “Meals on Wheels”, their transportation to appointments and errands as well as company as we all spend time with them.  In fact, I have started to spend Wednesdays with my dad as he has been alone for a few hours on that day.  I have always been closer to my mom so this has been an interesting experience for all of us.  I just hooked up with ancestry.ca and am searching our family tree and looking as far back as I can into my own family history.  It is so interesting! 

Me, my mom, my dad and my partner.

On a sadder note and one I have had to come to grips with is that I have not had any contact with my son (who is almost 43 years old) and has three children, one I never met or was notified about.  I have had none or very little contact over the past five years.  I won’t go into the details of this but the one thing I can say is that he has had no contact with anyone in our family.  We have a big family of about twenty five where there has always been love and support.  He also has not had contact with his 89 year old grandparents and he was the second grandchild born to them.  The first was my daughter who passed away at age 17 due to medical reasons.  They are heartbroken.  

It is sad and we all have our sad stories but honestly I have so much love and goodness in my life that I am doing well.  I wrote letters to my three grandchildren in November 2019 and will do this again.  I have them in a box with pictures that I have and someday I will be able to share these with them.  I had made my middle grandson a quilt last year (2018) out of fabric I had purchased in Australia many years ago and I have started a small quilt for my youngest granddaughter (the one I haven’t met).  I have a picture of my first grandchild who will be nine next year with the quilt I made her when she was little and it is in the box.  I am planning to make something new for her as well. This is how I have been healing. So please I do not want any advice and I do not want you to feel sad for me. 

This is hanging in my home and is my truth.

I am so fortunate to have four beautiful grandchildren through my partner whom I love.  They call me Gramma Kimmie and love me unconditionally.  What more could one ever hope for.   It is so wonderful to have love and children in your life.  

I have had a dream to offer workshops/groups for women in my grotto space (aka garage) for many years now. Don’t get me wrong.  Many things have happened out there.  “What happens in the grotto stays in the grotto”. That is the truth!! Here is a bit of the back story with pics on the Grotto Space.  https://spaceforyou.ca/2018/04/16/welcome-to-my-grotto/

My partner and I did offer a few workshops there a few years ago and they were really successful.  After that we talked about it for probably two years and then we decided we either needed to do something or stop talking about it.  So, we both wrote an intention that we put under our pillows.  We ran a few focussed workshops this past summer and they have naturally morphed into monthly Moon Circles.  It is so wonderful to connect with like minded women and to create a space where we are free to talk about anything that comes up in our lives.  We both feel so blessed to be able to hold this space for women. 

There are some shifts happening in my work as well.  Along with a co-facilitator, I will be offering a Support Group for Family Members of those with Hoarding Disorder starting in January.  This is brand new for me and also new for my community.  I am so excited to be designing and offering this group. I am anticipating that I will be learning a lot and I plan to share this with all of you as well. Stay tuned!!

I am also very excited to be offering a new service this year: Virtual Coaching/Organizing Yes, Online (Zoom, FaceTime, telephone, etc.) which means you can get help and inspiration from the comfort of your own home. I am currently offering Free 20 Minute Intake/Consulations – You can sign up here https://SpaceForYou.as.me/ Maybe, we will be a great fit and this will be your year to get motivated.

I am so excited for what 2020 will bring for us and I hope you are too.  Let me know what topics you would like to see here or in the FB Group. Please join my Closed Face Book Group Declutter Your Life and Mind for more inspiration https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/

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The Magic of Decluttering

Does this title confuse you? Do you think there is magic in decluttering? On the one hand there can be a lot of pleasure in acquiring things and on the other hand what do your do with all of this stuff…….. like, now what??? Could be “where do I put this, or perhaps it ends up staying in the bag, or I don’t want to look at my bank account or ………??? ” What are your thoughts? It can be so very complex, so conflicting and confusing for sure.

Do you have a love/hate relationship with your stuff?  Do you love to get stuff, give stuff, stuff is pretty, makes me happy but….then I have to live with stuff, move stuff, clean stuff, have too much stuff, makes my home feel cluttered, can’t find my stuff. 

No wonder it is so hard to let go and to deal with all of that stuff that comes into our lives. If you are bringing stuff in on a regular basis and not letting go of anything in your home eventually you will run into difficulties. It is not about getting more space, more storage and more bins to put stuff in. You need to have a good flow happening in your home. Things coming in, things going out. It can be the same with finances, right. We need to have money coming in so that the money can then go out to pay those bills or to purchase what we need or want.

If you have too much stuff, you will need to purge. I know, that’s not what you wanted to hear. BUT…..”You don’t need more space. You need less stuff.” Joshua Becker from https://www.becomingminimalist.com

So, what are the benefits of decluttering? Is there really some magic to decluttering? These are some of the comments from the participants in the Declutter Your Life and Mind Private Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/ Lightness, peace, freedom, accomplishment, pleased, happy, proud, cleanliness, space, lighter, less to clean, feeling more in control, enjoy your space, taking control of my space (rather than my space controlling me), able to find things, improved emotional health, less impulsive spending, less trip hazards.  Pretty Awesome right?

The Magic of Decluttering (my tips)

  1. More Healthy – Think about it. If you are more organized in your kitchen, you will have some counter space to create a meal or make a sandwich, you are able to make healthier meals, you will use up those leftovers, you won’t have food that has expired as long as you are not buying too much and you can save money by not wasting food or eating out. You might even have some time to head out for a walk after a meal.
  2. Less Distractions – Which means rather than putting out fires you have more time for other things. You will have more time to just be, to think, to dream, be more creative or maybe to read a book. It’s not all about decluttering. You get to decide what to focus your energies on.
  3. Less Anxiety/Stress – There is no question that clutter causes us anxiety and stress. Who needs it? Right? You will feel calmer just because you can find your keys, you are not tripping over the cat and you are able to find what to wear with no problem. You can give yourself permission to breathe, to ground yourself and to have a little time to get to the next thing without rushing. Ahh!! So awesome 🙂
  4. More Energy Flow – I think it is so important to have that energy flow in your home. It keeps things fresh. When something comes in, something goes out. We need to have this flow happening in all areas of our lives. We do not want things to become stagnant and that is what happens when there is no flow. Think about that “stuck energy” in your home. I am sure we all have it. Let’s allow our stuff and our homes to breathe.
  5. More Intuition and Clarity – It can be such a big question to think about what we want for ourselves, our families and our homes. But, just to have that time and space and to trust our intuition to allow what we need in our lives. So important to begin this process and to be able to make some decisions and to trust that it is okay.
  6. More Finances – Yes, this is such a great benefit to decluttering. I could not believe how many people responded to “Have you ever found money or gift cards when decluttering? Do tell?” in the private and closed FB Group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/DeclutterYourLifeandMind/ So many people found money after a loved one had passed or even in their own belongings. You will not be out buying items that you know you might already have but cannot find (been there myself). Just paying attention to your finances can make such a huge difference. Watching what you are spending, paying your bills, doing your taxes, watching your dollars add up in savings – its all good!!

I am sure there are so many more benefits to decluttering your life and mind. I wold love to hear yours as well. Please sign up here http://eepurl.com/dsz4PP so that you never miss a post and please leave a comment. Thank you so much for your support. Happy Decluttering and Much Gratitude to all of you.

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