Don’t let the title scare you? It doesn’t mean that you are planning your death anytime soon. It means that when you are well and you have a more time to focus on your home and belongings, this is the time to really assess every area of your home. Celebrate your life and then make decisions about what you absolutely need and want to keep. What do you want to leave behind for others to sort through and to make decisions on?
Most of you probably know that my dad passed away this year and my mom just recently went into a Care Home and we (I have three siblings) have been clearing out their home in order to sell it. I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy process because my mom had not been bringing anything out of her room for donation in forever and I knew some of what she had been keeping. Also, I knew that not a lot of things had been taken out of my parents home at all for many years. It has been quite emotional for me as I slowly go through all of my moms items and try to understand why she felt it was so important to keep certain things. I am sure she was not thinking about us having to clear it all out.
This process has really helped me to think about my own belongings and what I want to leave behind. I recently pulled out some boxes that have not been looked at in a very long time and found some items that I didn’t even know I had. I also came across some things that were all about my daughter who passed away at age 17 due to some physical health issues that she had. My partner found me in a puddle on the floor when she came home from work one day but I told her it was all good. It’s just something that only you can go through yourself. And sometimes it’s just necessary. And it’s totally okay to be sad and to cry.
Yes I was able to donate this collection. Please do not judge me! My memories of my daughter do not reside in this collection and I do not have the space or interest in displaying them. I am happy that someone else will now enjoy them.
Certain things are harder than others. ie: Journals, all greeting cards and old letters received from friends and loved ones, autograph books, gifts or heirlooms from loved ones who have passed and don’t get me started on photographs. I am sure you can come up with so much more……..
You will want to allow yourself time to work through these things because It will bring up all the feels. This work is very emotional. You likely wouldn’t have saved all of these things if you didn’t have a history and a story or feel some kind of attachment to them. These items bring up all kinds of memories for us that can be revisited and cherished. And then decisions need to be made.
A precious gift I received from my mom for my 50th birthday was a photo book she put together for me which included little sayings and quotes. She also gave me a box with letters and cards, report cards, some badges, etc. This was such a thoughtful and most appreciated gift. Why do we want to keep all these things buried or forgotten in a cupboard or closet? This is the thing you want share with others when you are alive. This is the time to look at some of those things that might be hard. Celebrate those moments.
A popular book if you are interested in learning more about Swedish Death Cleaning is “The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning” by Margareta Magnusson get it here
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What are the things that are hardest for you to let go of? Would love to hear from you. Please comment below.