What is your resistance to clearing the clutter?
What do you think holds you back from moving forward? I believe these three things are tied together.
- Your Inner Critic
- Limiting Beliefs
Think about something that you have wanted to do, you think about doing it but can’t seem to get started. Maybe it is something that has been on your to do list forever.
What thoughts come up for you? The reasons why you can’t do it – limited budget, lack of time, too many commitments, the goal is too big, no related skills, etc.
All of these can be just excuses which = resistance to change which can = clutter
When you say you want to make a change but take no action to support it….what are you saying about yourself? “I am not important enough, my needs don’t matter, others needs are more important than mine”. What else?
Your Inner Critic
- Is not a fan of change
- Wants to keep you safe
- Likes to stay where things feel familiar and comfortable
- Does not want to rock the boat
- Is a loving little liar
- Is scared so she makes up all kinds of excuses so you won’t make progress
The clutter she thinks you can’t handle could be keeping you from getting that great job, meeting a new partner, or improving your health. It’s not the clutter your inner critic wants to hold onto, it’s the fear of change and the protection from what feels like a big scary goal.
I have a great example of this. I was scheduled to present a one and a half hour workshop on this very topic which was coming up in a couple of weeks. I was driving to work one day and was thinking about this and thinking “oh no, why did I sign up to do this, what was I thinking, what do I really know anyway?” Fear was setting in but I knew right away that this was just my little scared self and my inner critic wanting to keep me safe and inside my comfort zone. Knowing this can really help you to feel like you can move forward and take some risks even if they are scary.
Some examples of limiting beliefs are things like excuses (see above), negative thoughts, worries, beliefs from the past ie: family values, past failures, fears, etc.
You can see how these three areas are similar and are tied together.
The way to overcome the challenges of your own limiting beliefs is to change them to something new, a new belief. Remember, you have learned the lessons from the past and are ready to move on and ready for new experiences and new empowering beliefs.
You have to be able to give it up…..for example: you could say “I’m done with that, I’m ready for the lesson and I have learned from it. Thank you I am ready to experience something new. I am ready to move on.
Are you ready to let go of your resistance to clearing? What stops you in your tracks? Please share in the comments below.