Actually making decisions about letting go of items can be very stressful and anxiety producing. Being able to trust your instincts about what you want and don’t want is very important, however, this takes practice. Sometimes we will avoid even trying to discard anything because the anxiety is too much. There can be a lot of worry about possibly making a mistake. It can become so difficult to make a decision that it just feels easier not to do anything.
Do you ever find yourself looking at an item and thinking ” hmm…..what should I do with this”? and then find yourself saying “oh well, I will just put this over here for now” or rather than make a decision just put it back where it was. This indecision keeps you feeling safe and avoids any anxieties you may have that help you to face the fear that holds you back. This keeps you stuck and contributes to the clutter and congestion in your home.
There can be a lot of fears around letting go. Check out this post I did back in 2014. I talk about letting go of the emotional clutter as well as the physical. It still fits for me today. A work in process. I am currently working on letting go of what is not serving me. Mostly, this has to do with not being so hard on myself, allowing myself to go with the flow and realizing that I don’t need to do everything or help everyone.
Here are some questions to help you to assess where you are at with your ability to let go:
- To what extent do you have difficulty throwing things away?
2. How distressing do you find the task of throwing things away?
3. How strong is your urge to save something you know you may never use?
4. How often do you avoid trying to discard possessions because it is too stressful or time consuming?
5. How often do you decide to keep things you do not need and have little space for?
These 15 questions listed in the past three posts relate to how much difficulty you have with discarding, how much clutter is around and how much difficulty you have with letting go. These are the three areas we measure in the Clearing Clutter Support Group and everyone makes progress.
What areas are most challenging for you and what emotional clutter are you currently working on letting go of? Please answer in the comments below.